IMO -- its always better to try and miss the mark than not to try at all. Liquid courage is a mixed bag, I've had some of my best and worst moments with girls while drunk, so I'm not gonna lecture anyone on that one.

What I will say is that if this girl is "inviting" herself over to your place, she's definitely interested in you and I doubt you trying to put moves on her is going to change that. If anything, it shows you want more from her than just friendship, which is a step in the right direction.

Don't sweat it too much -- just cool down on the drinking if it looks like that's a problem. The sex won't mean much if you can't get it up and/or you can't even remember it the next day.

EDIT: I just noticed you said she was your ex. All I can say is about that is to always remember that exes are exes for a reason.

I think the hardest thing with an ex is that she already knows you and usually knows you well if she was around a while. It's also easy to fall back into the same traps or ways of thinking etc when it's an ex. It's just the way it is because thats the way you know it with her..

I too think that she is interested as she wouldn't come to your house if she wasnt.. I wouldnt sweat it too much either. At the end of the day you acted the way you acted. She knows you anyways so I doubt she will judge her whole experience of you on that one incident. if you get my drift? She would have expected you to try something if she was showing interest and coming over, plus she knows there is history so it's not unusual.

The only thing is that you may now have given her a bit of the upper hand. What I would do now is try not to bring it up and just move forward from it. If you can do that the quicker it will be behind you and the quicker she will forget about it too.

Just go straight back into the game like you were when you first caught up again. She obviously liked that so show her that again.

I am confused re the I dont want to get back with her but do want to date her part.. You might be kidding yourself a little here mate but good luck with it all