| First of all, if you need to drink to feel sufficiently confident, you have a problem of a more serious nature than just feeling anxious to open up chat with a random girl.
Don't try to be alpha about it. "alpha" is what somebody came up with who actually believes in pick-up theory. Pick up theory assumes consistency in women, which there is not. Instead, you have to be resolute about your decision not to drink. Thing is that whether you have what it takes to be resolute or not is a thing that stands and falls with character. And character can't be built from reading theories. This is something that you either possess, or do not possess, and if you possessed it, you would have been achieving your goals already rather than fantasizing and reading about them.
This is the truth, and makes it understandable that any self-help book, including books on pick up theory, are lies. Because people can read about all sorts of tips and tricks but if it's not in their characters to persevere on the roads they choose for themselves, no amount of cognitive processes can help them.
Once, a friend sent me a blog about his trip to Rome. I read it. Then another friend invited me to go watch a documentary about the history of Italian maffia. Did that too. Then I moved to work for the European Parliament. I heard the voice of some girl. So I thought: "New girl in the house? Let me check that out!" So I ran all the way downstairs and into the street until I caught up with that girl and another guy who lives in the house. So I said: "We're going out for shopping right?" so I basically started talking to that girl and turned out she was from Cicily and just new in the house, etc. etc. So then she said: "You know, my motto, is from a Canto of Dante's Inferno. Man was not made to live like a brute, but to elevate himself through culture." I said: "Cute. But anyone who has been once to Italy can tell you that, since this is one of the motto's on the Roman library." (I knew this since I read it in the blog of my friend 2 years prior). She was amazed, however she was also reading a book. She said: "You probably don't know about this, but it's interesting, have you heard of the judge Falcone?" I said: "Yes of course! He was the only one trying to fight the maffia. Because he was so well-guarded, the maffia eventually saw the only way to get to him was to blow up the very road his car passed over." (I knew this from the documentary I watched with my friend a year earlier) She said: "OMG! How do you know all of this?" I said: "Hmm, I just know things." Then we went out and she asked me if I never drank in my life, and if I never wondered how it would be to drink. Then I said: "I never wonder about that. Instead, I wonder things about Dante." She was blown away. Then again, if I were a drinker all those of my braincells would probably have been destroyed already and I wouldn't have been able to remember all of these facts.
Food for thought.
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