Hello,

So I'm starting late in life. Well actually I was on fire up to the age of 7 (brother and I were adorable. I had a lot of kissing with the girls behind the fridge outside...really lol). When my dad left, my family life went to shit for the next 11 years. The things I saw and heard...not good. Then my mom decided I wasn't tall enough so she put me with Dr's who F'd up my metabolism and I blew up. Not only was I now not tall enough, I couldn't stay thin... no shit.


I still look at my pics when I was 7 and say damn...wish I looked like that. I got married at 18 (bad mistake) to my first and got away from my crazy family. She was awesome, but said adios after putting up with me for 12 years. Unfortunatley she knew me with all the shit I was brain washed with by my crazy ass family. She loved me so much and wished to God I would get help and change. If my up bringing were better I know I wouldn't be the same, my life would have been way better, but anywho (nothing I can do to take away all the pain)....I'm alone now, so from here on out I get to make the story better. Wish I could have her back...I honestly stoped some of the insanity and took the last 3 years to reflect on all my F up's before even thinking about getting into this game. I’m still not there perfectly though, it hurts.


So I've seen the nautral and the alpha all my life take what I wanted, and for what? Fear stopped me from searching who I am, fear is going bye. Been going to clubs and dancing since I was 9...never took 1 girl home, never got 1 number. I've seen more hot girls then there are stars. I learned I get anxious and have borderline ADHDI, meaning I don't focus. I never knew that people actually watch people and choose from those peoples chocies and actions wether to accept them or not, I always accepted everyone becuase I always wanted to be accepted.


I never knew society; my mom always thought she was right (always in denial). I was always trying to escape my reality, trying to escape my F'd up socitey I was restricted to. I try working with my mom but she doesn't want to....I think since our relationship and my whole family relationship has been F'd up, my relationship with women and how I view my relationships are F'd up....any suggesstions on a good read or physcologist on this? My Dr. works on the power of agreement and mmmm I don't think really helps in getting the past the past so I can stop felling all these negative feelings. I never believed in going to a shrink or hypnosis. Just talking about this and even going to one is a big jump. As you can see, I'm waking up.


After I meet someone I cling to them, going from 1 friend to the other. I mean I meet tons of people but I'm not managing my contacts right. Not managing my boundaries and time right. At least I'm begginging to get it and am working on improvement. A bit sad that so many people get this growing up. I know girls like me, but then I F up...this shit has got to stop. I'm better then loosing them and I know they all wish I had it together and I could move smoothly from attraction to seduction to the normal good life. I even F up at work and have a don’t care attitude, my boss and co workers tell me all the time we want you to succeed in our company, for crying out loud I got one of the best jobs there, I am a professional.

My friends are nautrals, they get girls all the time and say to me dude be yourself, then they take off to bone the next chick rather then taking the time out to watch me in the field and help me. Fear is my worst enemy. It comes from all the NLP my mom did on me growing up! She didn't know NLP but all she spoke and still does is the sky is falling and gossip. She programmed me, ugly. Added to all that. I've had a long series of extremely bad life circumstances dad and grandmother deaths/job loss/first home I put so much love into taken away in the divorce…. so I'm saying F it for the first time at the age of 34. I need to breathe. I feel like I have not lived and I’m dying inside, I hurt and no one cares. My little will and ressillience is keeping me afloat, I'm taking this extremely serious. Forget my MBA; I'm going to be a PUA first


I'm not doing this to get laid everynight by different girls. I'm doing it to find myself, learn about social things, become a better citizen and not just be so available, giving, needy (expecting in return from all my giving), open, trusting. I'm going to master my/and everbody else's body lanuage, time management, cat string theory, remaining neutral till they are comfortable.


Then I can be the over the top spontaneous/funny guy, and just be me but push/pull it at the right time instead of, all right here right now...I'm doing too much. I don't feel it yet but as I work on it I will. I don't even know when a girl is attracted to me. My shirnk says it's becuase I'm so in the moment that I'm always thinking of the next crazy or funny thing to say or do that the girl get's caught up in the moment and doesn't know how to get real with me becuase she doesn't know if I'm going to stay and become normal and give her some of me or I'm going to keep on and she has to be in the fun mode all the time which is exhausitng for most people, then I get put into a comical friend state....I'm learning alot , just by writting this out here. Who knew writting could be my own phsycologist. It's really what sends girls running off with the creepy vibe. I go striaght from attraction to seduction and don't work comfort because I'm not comforable with myself yet so I'm basically working on my inner game before I go out again rather then just do a little good here and there and jacking up potential relationships. My screename should probably be burningbridgesexpert, but I’m too good for what I’ve let myself do in order to feel better.


I'm going to know what to do before the Alpha and the HB and I'm going to beat them to their game. I’m going to get all my life mental shit together. I’m going to be noticed from the club scene to the board room, in a good light. I'm going to master these skills, becuase whenever I do focus on something and stop the denial....I triumph.


Thank you for your time and consideration in adding value to my life, which will relfect onto the lives of so many


Kind Regards,
nobelsito

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Re:PUA Forum
Subject: Ice Breaker Response
Author: 1stbroker

nobelsito,

I read your introduction and I feel compelled to reply. Although I am new to this forum,
I am not new to the game and to changing my mindset even in the worst of situations. So, let me give you an example.

Mentally we are all hi strung, and if our attitude about life is always negative, it will be hard not only to interact with people that know us, but especially with people that we want to meet, in this case HBs etc.

So first, if you are feeling down or not in one of the best moods, change it. That sounds simple or too easy but it really isn't. When I feel bad, I do something that will totally change my attitiude, hopefully something constructive. I love reading books and meeting women. So ill go to Barnes and Noble, pick a book and say hi to a couple of cuties there, not to hookup but to get my confidence in an enviroment I am comfortable (happy) in. Other times when you are put in a situation that someone is getting you angry, rather than stay and fight, leave to a place that you can calm down and... you guessed it somewhere you that makes you happy in a constructive manner.

This will build up your resistance to being a fighter and will show you how to be more constructive in life and build your confidence up at the same time. No one likes anyone that is always sad, but everyone loves someone that is happy. So make yourself happy first, build yourself up while breaking a bit of ice....and before you know it even the 10 HB will be wanting to get into your space.


Cheers!!!

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1stbroker