At least i think thats what the ad for Vin Dicarlo's "pandoras box" system said. I read the thing, it was pretty good and i like the idea of narrowing a womans type down by distinguishing characteristics. Unfortunately i don't think he nailed all those characteristics on the head and i'd like a bit more of an explanation for which type goes for what kind of stuff. So i made my own. And wheras Vin's system is based on behaviors, mine is based on values. You see, everyone judges people based on their actions but their actions are really an expression of their beliefs. You can express a feeling anyway you like but the root of the matter isn't in the mode of expression but the message which is being expressed.

Keep in mind unlike Vin i don't recommend choosing only one or the other. Some girls have both.


#1: INNOCENCE VS. ASPIRATION
I found this characteristic to be somewhat dependent on age, younger girls tend to want to be preserved, innocent, and daddy issues tend to wear off over time. By innocence i don't just mean young and naive, i'm talking about figuring out whether they seek to prove their worth or preserve their worth. This applies not just to their worth sexually, but their worth in a career, life, friendships. One type of innocent is the party girl who just doesn't want to face her job or career, wants to spend her entire life like that. An aspiring girl might seek to be the best lawyer she can be, all the while secretly feeling inadequate. Another innocent is the girl who asks you to excuse yourself every time you curse. An aspiring girl might be pro sexual liberation while an innocent might be quick to point fingers at the first person to mention sex.

#2: SUBMISSION VS. REBELLION
This one is the funnest one in my opinion. Heres an easy way to figure this one out. Ask her "would you classify yourself more as a bad girl or a good girl?". Rebellious types will pick bad girl, submissive types will pick good girl. Some will ask if they can be both, and of course, you say yes. Yes, thats my favorite. And sometimes you even get more, if they say they're a good girl but sometimes they're naughty it means that they're an innocent, they suppress (or 'protect') their sexuality until the right conditions come along. And then theres the ones who are bad bad girls but secretly want someone to tell them how to feel. They're rarely if ever honest about it until after. Submission and rebellion are 2 very instinctual feelings in women, some even like both. Leave her to be whichever one she chooses, trying to force it will squander your chances with her. Just take whatever choice she chooses and reaffirm it, play into it. If she's rebellious, encourage her rebellious side. Rebellious girls will always make out with you to get back at daddy. Submissive girls love it when you guide them, dominate them.

#3: RATIONAL VS. EMOTIONAL
Women aren't just emotional creatures. In fact, despite what you might think, women aren't better at understanding their emotions than men are. Feelings at their core are just energy. Fear and excitement are the same thing, the only difference is perspective. You can witness that from watching horror movies. Same with anger and passion, sorrow and peace. I used to have panic attacks. I harnessed that energy, turned it into passion and now i design shit for a living, photograph beautiful women, i use it to create things in the world around me rather than destroy things inside myself. But the feelings in women are no different than ours. What is different is the connections between the rational side and the emotional side of their brain. They have 3 times as many connections, which means they aren't as compartmentalized as we are and they can't separate feelings and thoughts as well. But the emotional side still works the same way ours does, and i've used this to my advantage plenty of times. I've actually intentionally said something to piss a girl off, she got angry, i reframed it and her anger turned to excitement, i reinforced her excitement and urged her to let it out... But you see how this is useful. Unfortunately this only WORKS on emotionally dominant types. Emotionally dominant types tend to be more idealistic and pursue endeavors based on how its going to make them feel. Rationally dominant types are going to pursue endeavors based on whether they make sense. They tend to be more realistic.