Been with GF for about 5 months but having issues regarding her friends and her association with them.

Her background: Beautiful, educated, well traveled, good steady job, lives on her own with her small child, good personality. Overall a pretty good woman.

Other info: We have over an 11 year age difference. We are from different cultures.

I was dating her and other girls before she and I got serious because I like having the option of spending time with someone else in case one girl is not available. I love women and I am fascinated by them, but I rarely have exclusive girlfriends. This is my second exclusive GF in over 15 years.

Issue: She keeps female friends around her that she has been lovers with or that she has made out with just for fun. And we have a mutual lesbian friend that keeps getting between my GF and me because she, lesbian friend, either wants all of her (GF) attention or mine, and lesbian friend has made it clear that it bothers her that we don't spend that much time with her anymore. They have made out before, btw, but this was before she and I got together. She says she has not made out with anyone else since we have been together.

Furthermore, two of my GFs ex lovers/scams have outed her in front of me and some of her other friends, telling me that they slept with my ex or made out with her. For me that was very inappropriate. I went along with one of those girls and just made a joke of it. FYI And that friend told my GF that she really liked me after that.

My GF told me that her past BFs were ok with her making out with other women, I told her I'm cool with that too but I'm gonna make out with other women too, and I was serious. She didn't like that at all. I was even cool with having an open relationship, but she said she wouldn't be happy knowing I was with other girls. But I also like exclusive relationships, so we both agreed to be exclusive.

Now she says she is in love with me and things are getting emotionally serious. We have been having many discussions/arguments in the last few weeks about her keeping those friends around which i feel are not cool friends, especially since some of them are flirting with me in front of her. But she doesn't see the danger in keeping those "friends" around. I think it's a recipe for the break down of our relationship. but she is cool with it.

QUESTION: What do you guys see happening here? What advice would you give in dealing with this situation in a healthy manner?

Thanks!

All sounds a bit complicated but I hope this forum can help you! Im here for a similar reason.

Yeah it feels complicated and it feels frustrating for both of us, and I'm just thinking about getting out cuz my logic says it's just too much trouble too soon in a relationship. But we have a connection that I wanna explore, and there is love and good moments shared. Would love to hear from people that have some good wisdom regarding this.

I feel like the mutual girlfriend likes you and her needs to know her boundaries. She isn't making anything easier for you or her. Your Gf needs to be a little less selfish. she either makes a decision on staying committed to you and having you be the only guy she is with . Or she can stick with the hook ups and open relationship. I find it funny that most girls think because one of their ex's let them do something that the future bf will be like that too. Overall communication is key