Hello all, I've posted a couple times asking for help already but thought I would introduce myself.

I'm 22 and currently a 2nd year student.

Obviously from the thread title I have confidence issues and worry a lot. The worrying I get from my mother I think as she is a major worry woman.

The reason I have confidence issues is that when I was in school still I left college I was very overweight at 19 stone. After I left college and got a shitty job I realised my life was going nowhere, no girlfriends (had had sex) and such. So I decided to buck my ideas up and lose the weight. I'm now at a healthy 12 stone for my height and attend the gym every so often to try to keep a slimish figure (i'm not a fan of muscles but a hard stomach and chest sure does help.)

Anyway even after losing all of this weight, getting myself to a gym I still have major confidence issues. I find it hard to talk to anyone (especially girls) one to one unless they are particular girls. The strange thing is after I've had sex with them I can talk the fucking roof down/make them laugh easily (in person.)

I've recently started the newbie quest to get my confidence up by looking anyone in the eye when I got for walks and saying hello. Also at work instread of avoiding the people I don't socialise with I will give a casual hello, ask how their day was and then try to take keywords they say in their sentences to continue the conversation.

The other problem I have is worrying. My main screwup with new girls is worrying why they aren't replying. When I was younger I assumed you should give full attention but now I know different. I ballsed up big style with an absolute stunner from work by over-texting but I still worry.

What tactics/thread do you guys suggest to improve my confidence/inner game and to stop my goddamn worrying.

The Magic Bullet Syndrom by Perry Rose get that book its a basic NLP Technique to get over fear's and dought. It explains the major symptoms you are going through and why. No one on this forum can physically help you because they are just giving you opinions of what they think is right and wrong but this book give medical analysis and facts that have been prooven to help people like you as it did for me!

Well, how tall are you? If you can state your height, maybe someone can help you out.