Hello everyone, I am a man in the second half of my twenties. I live in Norway, and I am a student. I am just starting out on this journey of discovery, self improvement and sexuality towards becoming a PUA. I currently have no practical experience.

A month ago I lost my GF. We had been together for a very long time, and I can't remember anything more painful than the emotions I felt the first few days after. I am still recovering emotionally from this. I try to keep communication with her to only practical subjects, but it is hard.

On the positive side, the break up sparked my drive to improve my life. I have been doing a lot of stuff I wanted to do when I was with her, but didn't for one reason or another. One of those things is to learn about women, like you guys do here. I have already done a bunch of other self improvement projects, which feels great.

I miss my ex-GF alot, but I am not sure I'd take her back if that was somehow on the table. I would currently like two things. One of them is to explore other women, creating a spark with them, finding out who they are and having a casual sexual relationship. The other is to seduce my ex-GF again, so she can "realize" that breaking up was a mistake. I realize that this last wish might earn me some critisism. If so, I welcome it. I have no wish to hide how important that relationship has been to me though, even if I don't want it to dominate my future.

I hope to get some approach experience this weekend. Since I am a beginner, I wish to keep it simple. Feel free to comment on my approach plan, which I am sure will change as I get experience. I intend to go in alone in sets with 1-2 women at a mall or in the street, opening with a false time constraint into an opinion opener where I have different parfumes on my wrists. I ask them which one is the best. If I feel brave, I might ask them to compare with the one I am currently using, which would make them smell my neck. That should transition into "Cocky and Funny", possibly by accusing them of getting too close when smelling my neck. After 2-3 minutes of that, I go for an E-mail close by leaving and turning back to them and handing them a piece of paper.

How to act will be tough. I will want to be calm, talk slowly and with a (natural) deep voice. I shouldn't smile too much, and I should not lookat the target all the time either. If I can get in a touch or two during C&F, that will be useful if it looks natural.

All I have read so far is "The Game" by Neil Strauss and the original "Double your Dating" book by David DeAngelo. I feel like picking up a book on palmistry would help me keep a conversation flowing, while also giving me easy kino (correct use of the term?). Also, I have some approach anxiety, which I will need to overcome. One thing I am not that anxious about is sex, as many years in a relationship gave me plently of opportunities to get comfortable with my own and a female body. Currently, this means that the early stage of a PU is the one I need to work on.

I feel your pain, we all been there, bumped off the playin field.

If you want inspiration, go get David DeAngelo "Advanced Dating Techniques". Great introduction about the male/female interaction.

Google that.

For me, Inner Game and improving yourself is nr.1.

Stay strong