So I've been working this 21 yr old aspiring actress/model for about 3-4 weeks and finally f closed her last week. I'll post more details in the lay reports. Anyways we banged on Tuesday and it was only ok partly cause she had her mom's car and had to bring it back that night 40 mins away. I didnt see her again until the following saturday when i picked her up and she slept over. That night we had pretty ridiculous sex. So good she said it scared her. I meen its 5 days later and u can still see a faded mark on my chest/shoulder area that i got from her sucking/biting me. The following day she gave me this shpeal about how she should be in ny/la and is crazy about me and how shes gonna get attached real soon and cant let that happen so therefore just wants to be friends. She said if she's with me that it will affect her decision making. To this I said slow up I've only known u for a month and by no meens am i just going to become ur boyfriend. I thought that was slick and i basically continued to agree with her in a freeze out fashion. The only thing i question is that i said the 2 of us r a recipe for disastor, was that too extreme? Anyways i had a gig this past tuesday and she came to see me with some of her friends. I was playing when she got in and she said when ur done u owe me a hug to which i looked at her and said "we'll see" it came over very smooth. After i finished some people gave me some respect then i went over to say hi to her. She kinda had the doggy dinner bowl look goin on so i said come here and she gave me a big hug. I remember her telling me how crazy attracted to me she was but how we also have so much in common. I forgot what i said but i was being smooth so much that she grabbed me and sucked on my neck for a split second. So here's where i am....like 2 weeks ago i invited her to a real secret invite only sexy loft party. the party is this saturday but she has a family obligation early sunday. Sunday night I booked a huge UK artist for a show. An artist i was working on booking right before i met her and it turns out this guy is one of her favs. So she will def be there. Idk i could use some advice on how to proceed with this weekend because sleeping with her on either night seems tough. I could also use some advice on how to proceed from here regardless. Thanks ya'll this is my first post, sorry if its too lengthy or let me know if u need more details to respond

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Greetings Saul. I have actually had an extremely similar situation recently happen to me. I was sort of dating/hooking up with an aspiring model when all of the sudden she threw out the LJBF talk due to the fact that she needed to focus on her career. I am a former musician turned med student, so I totally understand the devotion to the career thing they are putting out there, but it is also a ton of bull shit too. I went along with it pretty much the same way you did. I also got similar results to the what you did, until she came up with a new boyfriend that is. The truth is that women often don't know what they want and, like many men, bounce around until they just fall into something and decide to stick with it. I hope it works out better for you that it did for me, but be prepared for it not to. At worst you had some amazing sex.

Thanks for the comforting reply steal, its good to know that this type of thing happens to other guys. I think part of the problem is that she lives at home and even though her fam is cool she wants to move out. So her next move literally could be a big one. (ny/la) I feel like if she gets an apt near boston, then its on and i'll have the hottest gf in the edm scene. I dont think shes about to bounce around different guys, not around boston at least. She told me she cant have sex without emotions involved, tht shes only been with a couple guys, and each were long term. (Prob bs, but prob not far from the truth, she seems pretty wholesome) Steal im wondering, how long were u hooking up with ur girl before she initiated ljbf?

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I swear to god that you are mirroring my exact issue here. I actually had met this girl through one of my old friends from back when I played in my band. We met back at the end of February and she called it off early May. Her exact reasoning is that she is an aspiring model and has to move to either LA or NY to do that. I quit my band about six months after years on the road trying to make it, so I get what she is trying to do. I have respect for all the people out there chasing their dreams. I chased mine and got really close before I realized it wasn't what I wanted anymore.

i hear ya, and u made a good point earlier about how a lot of women will bounce around till they just decide to stay. i always fealt like sometimes u do meet the right ones but at the wrong time. i had some killer pua moments with this girl and shes crazy about me, but still there doesnt seem to be much more i can do....fuck that, theres got to be some tactics i can employ in the short term. Right now even though i do like her, i really just want to bang her at least one more time....fuck...... What do u think would happen if i propose this to her? We bang once more, get it out of our systems and then be friends. i meen im gonna see her a lot anyways, the edm scene is a pretty small circle in boston and we both go to the same nights, and in theory could be friends. she could turn into the ultimate pivot......what do u think??

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Idk man. Give it a try. What's the worst that could happen? You get blown out? I don't really know the EDM scene out in boston, but I know here in Denver there are some hotties in it. I stay away from EDM though. My ex, and one-itis, is one of the social focal points of that scene. They have some smoking hot chicks though. That's for sure.