Hi Guys,

Fascinating topics you have on this forum, looking forward to chatting with the pros and fellow learners alike.

A bit on myself: I am the typical nerdy type, early/mid 20s, graduate engineering student. Grew up playing computer games the entire day and enjoying things like star wars, lord of the rings and the like while falling for tricks from girls in school to help them with their math homework. I was very asocial, and had no friends in undergrad but I've fixed that up and have a few buddies. So at least I've learned to socialize a tiny bit, but now I realized my love life was pretty lacking.

For most of my life I had the stupid silent crush but not the balls to act on it kind of deal from one girl to the next . I was not very confident because I didn't think I had good looks. I also felt pretty powerless in life as the girls who were interested in me were always the wrong ones. Throw in the stupid idealism that the way to win attractive girls was to be a good "friend", I was hopeless. It all seemed that way until one day I met my first girlfriend who taught me everything I know about relationships. I had also thought she was my soul mate and I would never have to learn to date, which was wrong. Problem is that it didn't work out, then throw in the fact that she initiated all the sexual moves first, that leaves me at square one: I know almost nothing about dating.

The only thing I think I learnt from that relationship was that being a challenge can make a girl obsessed. At the beginning I pretty much ignored her for a few months and showed very sparse interest every few weeks. By the time I had interest in her, she seemed to have fantasized me into the ideal boyfriend making my life pretty easy. I've also tried online dating too, but it seems like the moment I open my mouth women seem run away or get bored to death. So my options are to learn to date or go back to my old girlfriend (which she says she wants but sounds like a trap). So I still have much to learn.

Okay done, now you guys can criticize and laugh at the poor AFC

no one will criticize or laugh at noobs unless they get cocky or stubborn. Your mission is to read as much about game as possible, and practice out in the field as much as possible. Don't do this shit casually or it wont go well, make a commitment.

Engineers normally start as horrible AFC's but they can also become great PUA's due to their meticulous process based approach and way of thinking.