I came across this site because I'm slightly depressed in my sexual relationship with my gf. We both used to model and I've had my experience but this girl isn't high maintenance like the rest and is not a b*tch. Incredibly nice. But first.

What's up. Im idojiujitsu. I play in a band. I do bjj. And I'm in college(finance). Worked in real estate. Used to model. End.

I don't want to introduce my self and then bring up a dilemma but this is really eating away inside me also this is the first time I've come across this particular incident. I may go crazy so please lend me your thoughts.

My girlfriend and I have known each other for a year, she dated this douche bag hot head for a long time, who used to treat her bad. Bad as in her living conditions were disgusting, and she sas living off what she made from work, which wasnt much while he would enjoy the highlife.We had eyed each other for some during her previous relationship we even hung out a few times.

We have been going out since end march/beginning April. I treat her nice. And take her on what I do normally(which is considered luxurious to her). We even workout. Together. I also teach her boxing.

The dilemma: she dropped the l-bomb on me after a few times of intercourse claiming to never having gotten off before and also during oral to never having gotten off. She claims she has always liked me which is why she dropped the l-bomb early. I kind of find that bs IMO.

However I don't really feel the love. Well only 90% of it. I perform oral on her almost daily. And I try to keep intercourse not so often because in my past relationships I find myself getting bored and it begins turning into a "need to" instead of "want to" basis.

She used to perform oral on me in the beginning relationship. Claiming she never actually "wanted to" with anyone but she isn't bad and actually has deepthro skills. Then I never got oral again and still till this day. And in all seriousness **** handjbs. She doesn't even do that when she says she does or will. I've smoothly and attentively brought up the issue before and she has made dubious claims I'll share from the top of my head. Note: i've never pressured her into doing anything. Im that kind of guy. If she doesn't want to. It is what it is.

Her claims:

"I was molested by a priest when I was young" - why does this come up so often with other girls btw? Total turn off even if it isn't true
"my past relationships didn't turn out to well.."
"I don't really like that"
"I dated someone who only last 5 minutes and made me give him one."

I don't want to be selfish that's why I'm consulting with the public about their opinion and the older more experience guys and girls. But it wouldn't be an issue if she had not developed the habit of asking me or hinting to perform oral on her. Don't get me wrong I love it. But I feel so jaded giving so much and receiving next to nothing. Not to mention the l-bomb issue way to damn early. If you check the date we've only been going at it for two months. I feel it's more lust than love. I've never had this issue with any girl in the past, even the models I've dated knew the score of giving and receiving. I'm not sure what to do, part of me thinks I'm selfish on this and the other part thinks I need to end it.

On the side note she even said " I don't care if you get yourself off" which is horrifying to me...

dude sounds exactly like my ex girlfriend. they do it at first because they think they will lose you if they don't. Then they eventually stop altogether once there's no risk of losing you or she has lost interest. My ex was drugged and taken advantage of when she was younger, and her prior sexual relationships have never been good ones.
The best decision i've made in my life up to this point was break up with her. Now i practice the game and have realized that there are so many cooler chicks out there that will actually enjoy having sex with you. I'm by no means a master but i do ok, especially considering where i was a year ago.

I'll never consider myself a master..EVER. But I won't say i don't have experience. I'm not sure on "the risk of losing me". She is well aware that most of my friends are female due to my previous job, and I attend college. Will the overload of paranoia lead to her bad judgment/misconception and gain her to lose interest or is this something that starts at the beginning of the relationship and grows over time? I'm no psychologist(maybe a course). I made it a little evident there is no risk of losing me, but is it possible that little insecurities (example: I'm in better shape/condition, successful, strong mind, etc.) will be to intimidating and cause her to think irrationally? If you guys could please provide and explain why this is to help me understand more for future relationships I would appreciate it.

what i mean is that at this point, you're willing to put more effort into the relationship than going out and looking for new girls, and she's probably realized this. my biggest problem was that i thought i was socially retarded and didn't have a chance with other girls. my biggest surprise was that even right back into the game having not read anything i started hooking up with new girls right away simply cause i put myself out there.
My ex high a high level of emotional trauma as a result of her past, and as a result used sex as a method to control me, offering it up less consistently as we continued on. Plus now that i've been with other girls, i look back and it's easy to see that she simply wasn't into it.

not sure if i'm offering any insight into the situation, but if she's emotional damaged then let someone else deal with it. it sounds bad but i don't think you'll be able to solve this problem. i'd like to hear what other forum go-ers have to say though.

Don't get me wrong I respect and appreciate your foresight in this, other input would be appreciated as well before i make the decision.