INTRO
Hello every one, I'm Red. I live in the States and have been "lurking" for a while now and finally decided to make a post. It may end up being one of very few, however I though It was needed. I'm, by no means, a PUA. I'm not aspiring to become one. I'm just a good lookin' 27 year old man that has a full time job, a house, aquariums, LAN parties and loves his Detroit Lions.

BS (skip if you want)
Over 6 months ago I got out of a 4 year relationship that turned sour a bit before that. Ill spare the details, but she had a son whom I had raised for almost his whole life. Its the hardest thing Ive had to deal with. I got very down and lost in my own, dark, thoughts... I think we have all been there. When the time came to pull my self out of it, I started going out with my friends more. After a few nights out I quickly figured out that I had no idea how to be single. Most of my relationships/encounters had come from people I had known, or someone I had been introduced to. I hate to use the term, but I had AA (I now say AE). While out, I spent most of my time talking with my friends and their OLs (Old Lady, lol) and still enjoying my self.

I have a sales job; I consider myself very charismatic person and love dealing with people, I'm very out going and have no hesitation to talk to just about anyone. I know Ive seen other people say the following; I had no problem talking to 10s at work, chatting them up and everything. When it came to anything beyond that, forget it... I couldn't bring myself to take the next step. I disqualified myself without even giving my self the chance. I think this is the BIGGEST mistake any one can ever make.

ENLIGHTENMENT
After frequenting here, Ive started to notice things I never knew to look for in myself and the women around me. I already knew that how I carried myself at work had everything to do with my success there. I'm like that all the time, always smiling (almost, lol) saying hi to everyone holding doors, ect. yet I never realized how important it was, and that it was just as true at work as it was in pick up. I had inner game and outer game all along and didn't even know it! I broke my worst habits and have started looking for behavior/body language, and using minor kino along with it. I started to pick up on so much I had been missing it almost made me sick. I even came to realize that I used NLP on women at work almost every day.

PAYOFF
Not long ago, I went out with some friends to the park. There was a girl with us that I had never met, what a great chance to practice reading her. I wasn't really into her but after a couple of hours and some minor IOI and kino, I felt she was making it obvious enough for me to confirm what I thought right from meeting her. It was official, I finally felt comfortable.

I frequent a shop in the city where I work; I go In at almost the same time when I visit there. 9 out of 10 times its the same girl working. She and I had gotten to the point where we would joke around and flirt, but our conversations were always shorter, and I would leave for one reason or another. I hate to bother someone at work plus I always think about the 3 minute rule.

On the same day I went to the park with my friends I ended up in the shop on the way home. We stood and talked for a bit as usual but things were different somehow this time, I was more comfortable than I ever had been around her. I noticed that she would talk and I was always the one walking out the door. This time I made an opportunity to stay by asking something about her I knew she would talk about and I was genuinely interested in. FACE to FEET I was paying attention to her body language and it was doing the talking for me. It ended up being a 10-15 minute conversation and ended with a long two-handed hand shake (she was behind a counter) and I told her what we were going to do with a charming smile. She blushed, smiled, and agreed.

CONCLUSION
It all starts with inner game... work from there. Once you have the confidence nothing else maters. Thank you everyone for holding my hand, so to speak, while I "learned" how to be single again. I also want to say the stuff here doesnt just apply to pick up, much of it can help in dealing with situations in every day life as well. I never though that I would say this about a pick up site, but its a very positive thing IMO. The whole focus seems to be "better your self" and I cant see how that can be a bad!!

Thanks again,
Red Tepes

"The mind’s capacity is limitless, and its manifestations are inexhaustible. Seeing forms with your eyes, hearing sounds with your ears, smelling odors with your nose, tasting flavors with your tongue, every movement or state is all your mind."
-Bodhidharma