Hey guys,

So last night I went out partying with my friends and we ended up at this party where there were a lot of solid 8's and 9's. I got a lot of looks, winks and even 4 girls came up to me and started conversations with me and became flirty very quickly with me so i know they were interested at the very least. But after talking for 5 minutes or so they all ended the same way we would both stop talking and just stand there awkwardly then just walk away. I'm pretty sure the problem was that I couldn't hold the conversations or I wasn't flirty enough. so would anyone have any pointers on what to do and/or keep the conversations going? if you do please let me know because its quiet sad i think that i can let all those potential lays just fall through my hands over something as silly like this.

I think you're just too much in your head, over thinking what you want to say next and probably wondering what she looks like naked...

I would recommend paying attention at what she's saying, looking her in the eyes (actually makes you pay more attention), and simply register certain words while she's talking that could later thread to another conversation. For example,

HB: Yeah, i was a bit late cuz my dog was sick and i had to drive my brother to...

You: (having registered dog, sick, drive brother) can move into any of these:
- (cold reading to screening) i can already tell you're a caring person, always looking out for your loved ones and pets, what's your favorite animal?
-- or instead of the animal thing... you're the oldest right? (seeing as how she had to drive her brother it's pretty obvious but she'll probably think you're very perceptive)
- (tease) you on the road? i'm glad my car's in the shop, haha.

Tease when u can, and is appropriate. Don't ask too many questions but rather make statements... (like instead of saying "are you the oldest?" you say "you're the oldest right?", questions can make it feel like an interview but statements will make you appear more perceptive.)

Theres more you can do with this but just always look for those root words that can lead to something different and then when you hit one you're particularly good with (like a hobby of yours or something) then kick in with a funny or cool story about yourself that she'll later ask questions about and stuff... get into that talkative mood you always see the cool guys in, assume the attitude of being "the shit" and just talk, and when in doubt let her talk (if theres something girls love is talking) but remember to always lead the conversation to a fun place otherwise she might lead it somewhere boring and then blame u for it.

Remember to just have fun with it and not take things too seriously...

Hope this helps, Clowd.

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