Hey guys,

I am 24 and I currently living in Seattle and I'm basically completely new to game. I have been introduced to it through the book The Game and through youtube videos from Sinn and Adam Lyons (21 convention).

Something that has struck a cord with me is that I have heard that new pickup artists in training usually seem to go wildly on the opposite side of their personality. What I mean is nice guys go out and act rude while mean guys act extra nice. I have found this especially true for me as I i think a nice guy act kind of like a rude jerk outside when I try to neg or break rapport. It makes me feel bad in the morning when I think of what I said the night before.

Also, I find myself drinking a lot to get myself used to doing stuff out of my comfort zone. So when I'm out I'm usually plastered which doesn't help that much.

So yea that's me. For the last 2 weeks I've basically been going out to bars everyday. At first didn't really approach too much had very little interaction sometimes not talking at all. Now I'm starting little conversations sometimes awkward sometimes not. I try to reflect on what I did and said the night before each morning.

Just curious about you guy's first experiences. If I'm on the right track. Also, what can I do to help myself just starting out. What you guys wish you did to start off. Maybe how to practice. Yea I'm clearly fishing.

Thanks

Welcome sir,

Try going out and having a few drinks rather than getting plastered. Being buzzed is cool, being hammered generally isn't. I'm not saying you can't get results hammered, because you can, but you can get better results sober/after a couple of drinks. Getting hammered is a recipe for whiskey dick as much as anything else.

As for how to practice, keep going out. Read/watch different ideas and techniques and practice them until you feel they are something you can do without having to think about it too much.

your on track, your experience is typical you will improve.

Try to put together some of your own canned material to compliment your normal ad hoc game.

Thanks for the quick responses.

I'll try to limit the drinking maybe drink 1 less drink each time I go out until maybe 3 drinks a night (That'll save me a lot of money).

Still concerned about negging/rapport breaking. I feel that I definitely go too far. I think I have come off as rude to some female bartenders and girls to the extent that I switch bars often (I hope it's only in my head). Are there any guidelines to know when I've crossed a line or should reel in the negging?

Thoughts off the top of my head is that i need to build comfort before I start negging however everybody I have seen says to do it often and it's the main thing in my head each night.

Thanks

cool it with the bartenders, they are very hard to pull anyway without great game and social proof, as far as pissing off random girls, try to keep that to 1-2 per night. Don't fret about it, no one is gonna remember it but you