My friend from college, "Mike" is the saddest example of oneitis, and needs so much help.

Here is a quick history of his relationships:

When we met he had been dating "mary" for two years, without having fucked her once. I'll never know what they were waiting for. Mike made one feeble attempt to take her virginity when he knew she was in correspondance with another guy at the end of their relationship, but stopped when she expressed some LMR. Mary dumped Mike for that guy a few weeks later, and fucked him after a few dates.

He then befriended a really cool girl named Julie after his breakup, but declined to fuck her when she came on to him drunk one night. They continued to hang out, though it was another year before he actually fucked her.

Currently, he hangs out with an old friend "Amy", who is infamous for making insecure guys think she likes them by being overly chummy. In my AFC days, she would call me to hang out alone and flirt with kino. In larger groups of guys she would do the same to each guy. Eventually, everyone caught on and froze her out, and now all she has is Mike, the biggest chump of all. He's been hanging out with her for two years since graduation, and he still thinks he can fuck her, when the furthest he got with her was a peck on the lips. She's going to CA next month, and he's already written her a letter to send, even though he sees/talks to her everyday.

Naturally I want to help my friend, but he seems like a lost cause. Last night we were at a show with full asses bumping and grinding throughout the dancefloor. He was even wearing the same outfit I saw him in last week: a tshirt given to him by "Julie", a sweatshirt that belonged to "Mary", and a pin given to him by the succubus. All night he stood against the stage, never even attempting eye contact.

How can I inspire him?

first off. the key is to neg the girl to build attraction as i see it, and that's how i did it...

2nd) Yeah, and basicly give IoD's (indicators of disinterest) so she will start to validate herself...
(make her want you! turn the scenario.)

3rd) get an excuse to touch her, hair, shoulder tap, hip grab... but in with a face that shows that your not really interesting

4th) get him ON here so he can read on this genius site, and buy membership optionally.

I'm sure it can be done easier, but this is the procedure that i followed (well not the 4th one)...
I did a few more things that was just adapting to the situation i were in.
and it lead to that a kiss and followup same day lay.

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don't play girls, play with girls

well you can't really force him to do anything, and it sucks when your friends are going through hard times, I suggest if you go out with him, turn the night into a game,

play the drinks game,

just start approaching in tandum, you can make as many retarded rules as you want, like who can say the word cute the most, or you have to do a certain thing, when a certain word or question is asked, or play the 3 words game (only can say 3 words at a time, then someone else has to talk before you are allowed to speak again, and when you speak again, only 3 words at a time), just entertain yourselves, play for drinks,

when you approach, the guy who is approaching picks his target first, the wings job is to make him look cool, agree with him, and stop other people in the group from cock blocking him, if that guy gets a number, he buys the wing a drink, if the wing can get a number while stopping the cock blocks, then you buy him a drink, every set, switch who opens the group and seeks the target, and who is the wing man,

when you are his wing, just help him out as best you can, hit on the girl for him, let her know he is interested in her, if she starts switching interest towards you, cock block her, and re-direct her to your friend, just talk him up, escalate for him if you have to, (just do shit like grab his or her arm, and put it around the other person, then say, there that looks better)

try to just have fun with it, don't worry so much about picking up girls, just go make a habit out of hitting on them for fun without a goal in mind beyond entertaining each other, get him involved

if you really want to get him over being needy, then get him some other options that in his mind are plausible, he might be more willing to move on if he thinks there are more girls in the world that want to fuck him besides the one tease that likes to make orbiters and has no interest in him beyond stringing him along

but since it is likely his confidence and self-esteem are at a low point, you just have to be extra confident and help him out until he finds his flow, just go out with him and help him find his flow

Thanks for advice pumpington.

we went bar hopping on St. Patrick's day, and I started talking/dancing with girls on the dance floor. He lingered behind, so I brought him over and introduced him to my new friends. we started dancing again, but he cited the music as being too horrible to enjoy. (We both have esoteric taste in music and shared feelings on the tunes.)

He went out to bum a cig, and then told me he was going for a walk. I didn't try to convince him to stay, as he was already being a buzzkill that night. I went back inside, and was on the cusp of rapport with one of the girls when I used a canned opener that fell flat and lost my momentum. Personally, a modicum of embarrassment is worthy of experience.

I see mike a few weeks later, and he tells me he's planning to move to LA. Though he won't divulge details, he's following his infatuation.

He disrespects me as a friend by doing the opposite of what I suggest, so I am through caring. I have other friends. And two sexy roommates.