Hey there y'awl

Just thought I would say a big 'hello' to you all and tell you a little bit about me. I was interested in girls from the age of 6. I have had a fascination with them for a long time as I've recently ticked past the big 4-0!

In the time I have learned a lot of hard lessons about females - if only forums like this were around when I was 18!

Having said that, by the time I went to uni when I was 23, I was, I suppose, what you would call a 'natural' in some ways. I was utterly unafraid to talk to girls, and instinctively knew how to handle them. This led me to a shameful number of women at Uni. I say 'shameful' because, although I could pick them up, I didn't know how to treat them or leave them and ended up hurting many lovely women - and having many drinks poured over my head.

Now, I am not good looking or buff in any way, but even now (I have been in a relationship happily for over 10 years now) I can get women's interest easily if I so desire.

I suppose one of the first things I learned (the hard way, I can tell you) is that you should always act like the last thing you really want is to find a new girlfriend; you are just being friendly because you are a great guy. If you act like your mobile phone is chocked full of models phone numbers, and people can't help but smile when they see you, then that rubs off. By always acting happy, singing to myself and chuckling to myself, I found women just want to know you. Contact with positive people rubs off on one.

I used to talk to strangers - not just young women, not even just women, but the young, the old, male AND female. I looked for empathy inside myself with other people, I genuinely cared for people and expressed genuine interest in their lives. By doing this, when you DO see a girl you find attractive, you don't need to think about what approach to take - it just flows naturally.

The only danger of this is the 'friends not lovers' state can happen. I found the best way to combat this is by, when the signs are all there to suggest female interest, you just do something blatant - grab and kiss the girl, tell her you want to nail her right there. It worked 9 times out of 10 with me! Seemingly, above all else, women love a confident man. Acting like you are Gods gift? You become it!

Anyway, I love the forum and reading all the different approaches and stuff people do.

Here's a good text one that I have used a few times; when you get a girls number and want to start a text relationship, send a text saying something like this:

'Hey there, look, I'm really flattered that you see me that way and don't think I'm not tempted by your offer! Yes, I know your friend really likes me too, but at the moment I'm just not looking for a relationship with either of you. Can we not all just be friends? I think you 're both great!'

Then, about a minute after, send another text like this:

'Oh my GOD I am so sorry! Please delete my last text! It wasn't meant for you! Boy is my face red!'

It's a great way of getting a girl interested, and I have used it to good effect a few times!

thanks fellas!


Ulex

Thanks for sharing your wisdom, sir. It is very much appreciated!