Hi,

New to this list, just 1 year on from my wife leaving me for her boss. Anyway life moves on, let the fun times roll. So here's the story I need help with, and did I screw up!!!

I was on business in another city last week Friday and I met this absolute 10 at a club. Her friend told me she was keen but I told her I was too shy. WTF???!!! Really, damn it! I was so angry with myself, I completely blew it. I did chat to her eventually but I felt like a complete twit. Later when she left she invited me to a party the following night but I was flying back home so I couldn't go. But did I get her number? No. What a jackass!

When I got back I thought, screw it, I'm not going to bollocks this one up and let her get away. So I tracked her down and eventually invited her as a friend on facebook. But after a few lines of casual chit chat it's just frazzled out (I was at work). That was a day ago. Oh and my FB invited message I think was way over the top "hope this is the same beautiful xyz I met on Friday"...

So my question is how do I recover? It looks pretty bad to me. I don't want to be the creepy desperate guy and end up with a restraining order, but man, she's worth the chase!

I was thinking 1 of two approaches: Next time I see her online, I say I'm coming to her city on business and we're going to meet up and show me around, even if it's to the damn zoo I don't care (make it light hearted and fun but not really a request more of a "we're going to do this"). Or, I know she works at a high end fashion boutique, and I could just pitch up, say "surprise, we're going for coffee" or something. I don't know. Both seem dead enders. Or do I just leave it and in a month or 2 next time I am up on business drop her a mail and say I'm going out, bring your friends along?


Any advice appreciated.

I would simply keep a flirtatious rapport going, ideally you would want to get more and more sexual with her online/phone or however you're contacting her. Then, at some point (in a few weeks, or whenever ur headed her way) mention that you should hang out. If there's any sexual tension between you 2, it will be STRONG when you finally meet up

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Thanks for the advice. Worked like a charm. But!!! Many lesson learnt!

Lesson 1:
A 10 in the club, is not necessarily a 10 in the morning. In fact probably half that. yikes

Lesson 2:
Don't invite her over for the weekend too early. What happens if you want to bail the first day?

Lesson 3:
Careful what you wish for: I'm sure most men have wished for a nymphomaniac, well it's hell!! Jeez she was waking me up every half hour to go at it for the I-don't-know-how-manyth time. Give it break!!

Lesson 1: LOL

Lesson 2: Good advice

Lesson 3: LMAO