Seriously I must have said this 100 times before, therapy is not the answer, they only learn you to cope with the shit in your life not be able to stop it happening, which isnt really the answer for me.

Seriously I Just joined this forum. But My Life has pretty much been in the shitter the past few months. I've been living like a nomad lucky enough to find a place to stay let alone find girls to like me. in fact i think about suicide myself all the time, but i can't get myself to do it b/c of all the experiences i haven't lived yet. but i took control of my life. life has to categories. Shit to worry about and shit not to worry about. if you don't have to worry about it than don't and if you do have to worry about something break it down, shit i can do about it and shit i can't do about it, if you can't do anything about it than don't worry about it if you can do something about it than do it and stop worrying about it. either way in the end you'll live more carefree. Here i am goin to basic trainin for the marines with no stable house, car, job right now, yet i still find a way to avoid things that upset me and i enjoy life almost 24/7. you should visit www.xanga.com/nightduskspawn. hopefully you'll find inspiration in those blogs. askmen.com is a good site for advice. but it's about changing your lifestyle and finding your niche. you'll find it eventually good luck my dude.

won't last 1 week in ur shoes? i won't last one week eating doritoes? nah man i fight bears on the daily, and they have rabies, u should save up for therapy bro, theres nothing we can tell u to be a better person.

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You wouldn't be here looking for help if you didn't believe you had some kind of chance. You sound really down on yourself but there is no need for that... I remember years ago I'd go out, girls would actually show interest in me, then I'd try to kiss them and they'd tell me things like "you need to try harder than that". Then I'd see them kiss other guys who made no effort and it got me down... it made me angry and bitter, but nowadays I wouldn't give a shit if that happened. But guess what? Situations like that haven't presented themselves since I changed. I wasn't good looking 5 years ago. I've been part of this community for over 3 years and I wasn't good looking until I found what worked for me. That's all you need to do, find the clothes and hair that work for you... and once your looks are sorted out it's all inner game and how you carry and present yourself.

Send me a PM if you wanna talk about anything.

I think some-one needs to go out sarging with this guy. Maybe even take him Shopping to fix up LOL

Listen to the damn kid. Whenever someone is suicidal or depressed everyone seems to want to act as if they know what is best for the person. I was the same way as this kid and if he knows that therapy isn't going to help him he understands himself. Maybe he doesn't know what will help him but he knows he needs to face things on his own. Everyone thought they knew what I needed and all the "experts" thought they knew better than me but down the road it turned out almost everything they thought was wrong.

Therapy didn't work for me because I was too independent and someone else trying to analyze my feelings never did me as much good as facing shit head on and having to learn to deal with it myself; no meds, no therapists, no "professionals".

People forget that therapists are like colleges in that they are businesses that try to play down the fact that they are businesses trying to make money. Therapists try to keep you reliant on them for business and they don't teach you to find your own personal power and ambition within yourself.

People don't need to hear someone else's take on their problems because the best person to solve their problems is themselves because a therapist or anyone outside of you will NEVER be able to access the problem solving resources you have within your own body.

I still contend to this day that being suicidal was the best thing that ever happened to me because were it not for that issue I had to overcome I would have never broken out so determined to succeed and let nothing stand in my way. I got up and said that there's nothing I can do I'm going to have to go through shit and feel like crap one way or the other but I might as well do it in a way that''s going to get me out of it eventually.
When people are depressed and feel like they have no more options they will look to ANYTHING that might help them change even if they believe it has no chance; people in this state figure it can't be any worse than their current existence. Also, being down on yourself to a large extent isn't voluntary and some people who have shit luck have to do a lot of soul searching before they figure things out and know how to look at the world positivley.

His situation is something inescapably personal that you would have lived through something similar to truly understand or comprehend what he is going through.

- Chris

I strongly agree with what karlostm posted. You have a lot of power over your own fate than you realize and you don't even know it. Sure it's easier to sit back and blame outside influences or fate, but how can you expect results when you already don't expect results? You have to realize that the first little while it may take time before getting results. Just like working out. I've been going to the gym now for four months, four times a week. Four months ago I was skinny, pale, and could barely lift eighty lbs. For three months I didn't see any improvements. Did that demotivate me? of course. I slowed down for a few weeks too. But now I'm in shape, I feel great and I look great. I can lift 200 lbs and do four sets easy! Looking back now I'm so glad that I didn't give up. Once you master the game you'll look back and be glad you didn't give up either. It's worth the effort!