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Culture and race don't matter much. Human will always be human
therefore the playing field is forever equal.
I gotta disagree with you here Open. For a lot of guys it's easy to say that from a perspective of being on the top of the dating food chain. I'm a black American living in the whitest place on earth: Germany. I tell you from experience that we've got a lot of negative stereotypes to combat FIRST before the idea of dating us can even become a reality to her. Basically, we have to be the best at what we can control. It's as simple as that, and the guys who tell you the playing field is equal has probably never been in an interracial relationship, or probably is white. For example there are all kinds of reasons why you might not give a chubby girl a chance with you, but it's also possible she could overcome these setbacks and win you over anyway. That's how it is with black PUA's. We have to understand our natural setback (our color) and work on improving things we CAN change (clothes, attitude, value, body language, etc). I can't come into a set half-assed looking sloppy, even if it was a gimmick in my routine stack. I realize that you might say "no one goes into a set like that" but that's not true. Some of the most successful (white) naturals I know dress like shit and don't follow any of the method. They have mad social proof and can open up sets with little resistance because everybody in the bar looks like them. They aren't hindered by last nights news coverage of the scary black man. I NEVER do warm opens or get indications to open, at least not blatant, so I always have to approach sets, whereas my white German friends sit back while the sets directly/in-directly approach them. Culture is deeper than sex, and I've lost a lot of girls simply because I'm not German.
I know some of you might simply say "well if she subscribes to those negative racist stereotypes then don't mess with her." Two problems with that solution:
1) a lot of people subscribe to this stereotype, and 2) a lot of people don't even realize it. You can usually spot these people by the comments they make ("I don't date black/white/asian guys). Racism is usually only associated with segregation and the n-word, and people rarely see it as racist when they say things like "I don't want my daughter dating a (insert race) guy" because by TV's definition, they're not being racist. To me, if you make a judgment about a person without meeting them, simply based on the color of their skin, that, by definition, is racism.
caveat to that is this: which pool do you think is bigger? the white girls who are only or mostly into black guys, or the white girls who are not into JUST black guys? if you were a PUA, playing the odds, putting yourself in a position where there are many hotties for you to sarge, which "club" would you go into?
Also, a lot of white people (girls and boys) will talk shit about a white girl that dates a black guy or walks around with him holding hands, like she's lowering her standards. In fact, most white guys I know (and ALL Asian guys I know) wouldn't date a white girl if she's been with a black guy. These are commonly ignored things but they have huge undertones behind them.
With a lot of girls, it may be cool to be friends with you, and POSSIBLY having a night of hot drunken sex with you, but the moment you try and cross that line into dating them they will reject you. All kinds of social pressure and taboo's are at work here. I gave up on talking to my white friends about the whole race and dating thing. It's pointless. Most white guys can't relate and will probably get tired of hearing about it, so it's best to just leave it and work on your skillset. Realize that, like anything, you have to work a little harder because of your social disadvantage. It'll make you a better PUA.
one love.
CHAT
