First up welcome to the forum, I'm sure you'll find loads of good info in this site to help you on your path.
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Female situation;
Met a female. 8 months in of being 'friends', fell into the friendzone. Trying to get out, situation got harder when she pulled the 'I just want to be your friend not your girlfriend' line. Although I'll never give up and keep trying, and be her friend but always have that hope for more. Sometimes she makes me feel that I'm not good enough for her, even when I treat her better than majority of males do. Even though I've got a crappy past, I've ALWAYS tried my best to fix problems and fights, and arguments.
I understand you have eyes for one woman which we call 'oneitus' - if you really want to get out of the 'friendzone' with this woman you need to stop hanging out with her so much and being her shoulder to cry on. In essence what you need her to do is make her value your time more than she currently does.
A harsh reality is women don't like 'nice' guys, yes they know you'll probably be there for them when things turn sour, but you don't want to be the guy who she uses as an emotional sponge to make her feel better about herself.
Take note from some other female friends you may have and ask their taste in 'bad' guys in movies or soap operas; you'll notice a pattern - Women love drama and excitement - they crave it. They don't usually gof for the predictable, safe and boring types.
In short at the moment it seems you value her more than you value yourself, she should never be the 'prize' or be put on a pedestal. You are her equal (she's only flesh and blood like we are).
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Current faults I have from my mind, and her mouth;
- Anger, get mad, angry when shes around other males.
- started fights, but fixed them, came to resolutions with other males
- I'm a door matt, acording to 'askmen', too nice, ass kissing, there for her at snap of fingers, always shout food, buy her gifts.
The above behaviour does come across as 'beta male' behaviour or what most people on the site refer to as AFC (Average Frustrated Chump), but this isn't a derogative term and almost expected from every guy when starting out, you know things need to change, you've taken the first step and you're in the right place
You'll hear the word 'alpha' be thrown around a lot on the site and there a lot of different factors in being alpha male, it's more a state of mind or 'frame' than physical intimidation or violence, especially where other men are involved.
Take the woman you're interested in, if she talks to other guys, let her, she's most likely doing in front of you purposely, to feed her own ego and she knows it is getting to you - its probably just a plot to make you jealous and I wouldn't give her that satisfaction.
If you act indifferent towards her, she'll most likely start to question her own motives and actions, she will either stop doing it or push even harder to provoke that same reaction from you. The best thing you can do is not entertain her negative behaviour when she around you.
You reward her for good behaviour and punish the bad; you do this through a means of your attentiveness to her.
I suggest you start working on yourself first and give your mindset a little self improvement.
I was pretty much where you are right now a few months back and finding this website was probably the best thing I've done to aid me on my journey.
Here are some good videos on alpha male characteristics and behaviour, which are definitely worth a watch.
alpha-body-language-video-series-vt139475.html
*credit to poeticlyskuac*
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