Hey everyone, im a 35 y/o guy with a live in girlfriend for almost 4 years. things have gone stale and i dont really want to stay with her. She is in love and has a lot to lose by losing me. Im worried about being single again but after reading this site I see possibilities. At the age of 35 without kids, family is pressuring me to settle down because im "too old". Are there people on this site that are in theyre 30s and 40s that are successful after some practice? Im afraid and insecure. Also I done know how to break up with her or if I even should. I know theres alot of women out there but I get lonely and dont want to be alone. I have a great job and travel for work and I make more money than anyone i know and am doing very well financially. I dont know if this break up is a good idea. Please help! Thanks!

If the relationship is not working for you, you should probably end it before things start spiraling and depression kicks in. It sounds to me like breaking up with this girl would put you in an "asshole" position. My suggestion is that you start acting really needy(buy her flowers every few days, constantly tell her how beautiful she is and follow her around as much as possible). The needier you are the sooner she'll break up with you