Hi guys,

Well- I've joined this forum specifically to get back on my game. I'm an older guy at 46 years old. And have pretty decent game for an old guy.

I'm going to be retiring in 12 to 36 months, and changing my life situation. So part of that will include upping my game, getting the game fit, and working on myself personally.

In the past my frame was a "leather lifestyle". So the game was polyamoury, consensual control, and BDSM play- which I was very successful at. But I'm a bit tired of all the trappings (and extra work!!) now. Yes... swinging a whip or flogger gets boring after 26 years of pervy play.

Not that the alternative lifestyle wasn't great, I loved it. It's just pretty played out for me now, and I'm surprisingly more interested in non-kinky people.

I've got a great deal of experience in recognizing certain desires in women. Those who want to be controlled, masochists, bi-sexed, and those turned on by unusual psychological states. Although that radar is used for avoidance now. If my spidey sense says she want's a spanking- I move on.

So as you might imagine- moving to women not interested in these things is a change, and one that needs to be adapted to. Different territory for me. Kinky people are a strange breed and only about 10% of the population. Now to deal with the other 90%.

I studied NLP back in the '90s. So I've got a bit of that down. More interested in experimenting with devotion states. I suppose I still like control... but would rather do it from an easy chair.

Just reading the forum I've covered a lot of natural game stuff, revisited the NLP stuff, and have been pondering the October Man and forbidden patterns in general.

Ethical concerns aside, they seem interesting for cementing something after the deal is sealed and you've built a relationship.

Anyhow... I'll be around- and probably pretty quiet until I have something to add which would be useful to others...

Be well..