Hi guys,

New to this forum however been a member of MASF for years although it doesnt seem to work now, anyway im 26 and untill a few weeks ago I'd been in a LTR for 5 years, the issue I'm having now is something I assume doesn't come up here much, I consider myself to be a good looking guy, I go to the gym all of the time so am physically fit, I have no issues with self confidence and I don't have approach anxiety at all, the problem I have is that I simply am not deep or creative in any way, I get girls interested but I struggle to hold a proper conversations as I run out of things to talk about.

I'm stumped as to what to do, when I was 21 before my LTR i could get away with it then as young girls seem to only care about looks however I'm struggling now.

You can learn to get over insecurities and you can learn to get over approach anxiety but can you learn what I'm missing?

Help appreciated
J

learn the cube

great for conversation lol

just search it top right


MarksmanX

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just read the cube, sounds great except for one other issue i have, i have a horrenndous memory, im one of these people that will watch a film and a few dayds later wont remeber any quote from it like most people do! so pretty much no chance of me remebering all the different outcomes of the cube!...

only thing ive thought of doing is going mental and going traveling and having loads of experiences to give myself something to talk about, only issue with that is I own my own business and am pretty succesfull, dont really want to give that up just to give myself something to chat up chicks with.....

lost...

J

When you run out of conversation/things to talk about, just look at your watch/ask for the time and say "I gotta go, give me your number so we can talk later."

Be yourself, it's when you are straining to achieve her when you lose her.

Hey, welcome. I'm here for similar reasons (although struggling to get help with them lol). I tend to get the feeling the girls I'm interested in make me struggle to keep up with conversation, and then I lose 'em.

I have noticed a couple AFCs chatting with some of these girls in the past (not for any sexual purposes, as far as I could tell, but genuine conversation for its own sake). I've noticed they tend to have a pretty decent knowledge of philosophy - Nietschze, Sartre, Kant, Heidegger are some names I've heard dropped. I don't even think that they've got a HUUUGE understanding of them, but if you know enough to apply to a conversation, you're golden. These girls hang on their every word and love getting small compliments like "That's a good point" from them.

The only trouble is, how to move from engaging their minds, to attracting their bodies? Any help?

It's worth noting that many girls like the strong silent type. Not all guys have to be chatty. And some girls are the talkers. So maybe you would fit better by attracting one of those girls that loves to talk and bring up subjects. She may even enjoy trying to be the one to bring you out more and find your depth.

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