Hey I've actually been a long fan of this forum but I've decided to get serious because im ashamed of myself and my self esteem is starting to crack. I cant have any of that. I mean I can talk to girls and get somewhere if im lucky but it happens rarely. People tell me I look like the type that gets girls but I really dont.

Im in college now so im starting out fresh.

I've never even done approaches before and I blame facebook for that. I fell into this horrible trap where for some reason I relied on social networks and high school to game on girls just cause i thought "it was easy" which it kinda was. I do think I have bad AA when it comes to approaches

So all I ask is where to start?
How to start?
When?
What to say?
Do I approach group or loner ?
When the woman is walking past me or sitting?
3 sec rule?

1. Where to start

Work on your inner game. You gotta have confidence. If you think it's cracking a bit it's probably cracking a bit. Don't let that happen.

I don't like facebook pick up. To me it's a crutch. I actually did the same thing for a while, but you won't get any of the benefits of real life pick up unless you try real life pick up... and fail. You have to fail to learn. The objective's not to fail, but to learn form the failures that will come. Facebook's a way to avoid AA. Spend too much time on the net and you probably will have alot of AA.

When it comes to AA everyone has an inner critic that picks at their self esteem. One thing I do is imagine the voice in my head that causes all of my negativity. I give him a shape and face and then mentally grab that person I've created, choke him out and bitch slap the shit out of that little AFC. It works.

Another thing I've used is finding that voice and mentally imagining it getting quieter and quieter until I can't hear it any more, or (I think this was from Style) play carnival music in your head behind that voice. Or change the tone of the voice until it sounds like a cartoon character. It makes it seem comical and changes your mood. Once I realized this shit works I realized there's infinite possibilities when it comes to fixing your mental game. You just gotta come up with something that works for you.

2. How to start

Just do it. Sounds cliche but the biggest obstacle you have is yourself. It's all in your head. Just go out there and do it. Try things. Fail. It's OK to fail. Failure is really just a learning experience. The more you do the better you get. I started late and slow. That's a big mistake. Dive into it! Make mistakes and come back to the forum or whatever you use for advice and consult it with the problems you came up with while you were out.

3. When to Start

Start now. Go out tonight.

4. What to say

Say Hi. That's the best pick up line ever. It's not what you say, but how you say it. if you come off as cocky and funny and confident you can say anything.

For example, "Hi, I'm an ass model. I caught you checking me out, so I just had to say hi. So what do you do for a living?". I always get a good response. But it's not because of the words but how I say them and where. If I used that at Walmart I'd probably get slapped, but in a club it does wonders. By the way, that line works GREAT with strippers. Also make sure your body language is confident, relaxed and sexy. Smile, keep eye contact, lean back, and don't let her bull shit shake you. Pretend you're George Clooney, or Brad Pitt. I channel people all the time. Acting works.

5. Groups or loner

Not sure if you meant "do I approach a group or an individual" or "do I approach with a group or as a loner".

Either way, do both.

Approach everybody. Talk to people you don't want to. Just have fun. Approach groups of girls and mixed groups of girls and guys. Approach girls alone. Approach groups of just guys. Why? Social proof. The chicks will think you're cool if they see you with other guys having fun. Even more so if you're having fun with mixed sets. Usually if you do it right the guys have no idea what you're doing.

Just treat the guys like you've known them forever and they're your best friends. Flatter them and they will love you. Basically use the shit you used to use on girls that didn't work. But make friends with everyone in the place and just have a good time.

6. Walking past or sitting

Approach both. I suck with moving targets, so I usually follow them until they stop somewhere. Can't help you much with that one, but don't limit yourself.

7. 3 second rule

The 3 second rule is a good rule but it's not a law. Don't just jump in in 3 sec. Use 3 sec to flirt then jump in. I believe that you can get places with body language. That's your first contact. Body lanuage flirting is the very first part of the actual approach. Smile, keep eye contact. Flirt and then approach. You can say way more with your body than you ever can with your words, so from a distance start with that then approach. But do approach asap or you will lose her.

Ok, I wrote a book. Hope this is helpful.

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