Hey dudes and ladies ( I know there are a couple of females on this forum),

I am actually in a relationship, but she's been overseas for a year and will be for another year or so. I know!...everyone asks "how do you do it?". Its not that easy, been filling the void with work and studies. I hung out with some friends the other night and realised that I am lacking in the moves department that used to get me by in the social scene ( I'm not trying to pick up by the way). I really love the relationship I'm in, but when I was out with my friends the superficial convos were unfulfilling when your not flirting. Thats why I'm here again (with a new name). I know I'm risking my GF by getting back in the game. I mean anything can happen out there. I'm not about to seduce anyone just lead them on a bit and get in the friend zone like networking.

There is a reason for this sudden "PU" behaviour. For a my GF her interactions are passive in the sense that guys will approach her and open up convos and etc. As a guy women dont come up to me and open up convos. I have to instigate these encounters. Let me tell you fellas its not easy when you see photos of your GF on Facebook hanging out with dudes and posting good times. I try to block my automatic thoughts by thinking of guys on FB as loser AFC's that she wouldn't be interested in. It's a little arrogant when I have never met these guys. I kind of wonder if she's feeling like me unfulfilled, but maybe feeling unfullfilled is due to me abstaining from the scene?

That's why I need to get out there. If I dont keep up with her I will be a shadow of my former self- unresponsive, awkward, unhealthy, unfit, delusional and synical. I dont want to fall in a depressive state.

what I'd like to know from you guys is- should I keep her updated on my social life if theres nothing that can seriously impact on our relationship ( even more so)?

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