Newbie here!

I've been involved in the London nightlife scene in various capacities for a few years now, and although i'm a completely different guy to who I was when I first started, I still bottle it when it comes to the girls I really want, the 9s and 10s!

Im still trying to figure out myself and my strengths, I have F-closed on 4 of 5 holidays that I took this year at an average of probably HB7, partially because I feel like I actually have somewhere to take the girl I guess, I was living alone for a while but have had to move back in with my mum due to finances. I know this shouldnt be an excuse though and I should be going back to theirs!

Aside from this, I can be a bit awkward and uncomfortable in 'normal' social situations, I went out for a friends birthday last night and went to his sisters place first where we all had a some drinks (there were a few 7s, one 8 and a 9.5 there), it wasnt really until we got to the club that I felt comfortable and in my element. I can always feel eyes on me in those situations because I dress trendy and I have a pretty unique haircut and yes ill say it, girls occasionally swoon and guys dont like it so I also feel frozen out intentionally!

At the moment I think I almost exclusively close due to status (in the clubs) and looks, I am constantly complimented by girls and occasionally also by girls I consider 9+s which still comes as a surprise to me!

But I just dont have the banter or say the right things.

If I could summarise what I am looking for it's that I wish I could speak and carry myself infront of 9's and 10's in the same way I do with the 5 to 8's with whom im pretty funny, a bit cocky and mildly interesting for at least 5-10 minutes!

I am literally brand new to the game, I picked up The Game for the first time last week and finished it on my way to the party last night (almost every time I read that book in the last week I felt ready to shark the shit out of the world! Except the ending!)

I have field tested a couple of things and it seems to be roughly working, namely openers and the cube. I just cant think on my feet quickly enough to neg properly though! And my pacing is way, way off.

Oh one last thing, (sorry for the long post!), ever since I picked that book up I feel like the world is testing me! Gorgeous women are sitting next to me on the train, social situations are putting these HB's right infront of me daily! Problem is, I have NO day game whatsoever.

Help!

Carrera

Oh one last thing, as I was starting out in the industry I used to run into Adam Lyons everywhere! I think I still have his old UK number I'm not surprised that he's taken it this far, dude almost exclusively rolled with 9s and 10s.!

Go into each approach as if you've Already reched your potential... Thus allows the interaction to flow.

Best of luck chap,
Chocolatemoose
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Thanks bud, ditto London. If theres one thing I can definitely bring to the table here it's parties and the raw material (girls!)

I don't know how to reach that state of mind though, maybe I feel like that for a little while after f-closing an 8 or something but it dies away!

The idea...Is state control

Step1:
Take the feeling you have after closing a HB8, for example Self Worth
Step 2:
Amplify the feeling of Self Worth by focusing on the feeling
Step 3:
Do a unique yet personal gesture e.g Clapping your hand together 3 times

Next time you find yourself gaming a HB and feel nervous
Clap your hands three times

Best of Luck,
Chocolatemoose

P.S. Hope to hear about your results !
P.P.S. Check out " Are you an approaching robot" thread for a interesting read

^^^^ Bad advice if you ask me. At BEST it's a band-aid, at worst it's awkward and embarassing. Take it from someone who is a practitioner in NLP, it doesn't really work like that.

That sounds so unnatural and weird, the thought of creating a special "anchor" (clapping your hands) just so you can go out and talk to hot girls? That's creepy and something you wouldn't want any of the girls you're talking to to find out about.

And, if I understand your first post correctly- you don't want "STATE CONTROL," you want your NATURAL state to be one that is confident, relaxed and at ease around 9's and 10's... and one that has 9's and 10's naturally being attracted to you.

I have personally overcome this myself and could probably give you a lot of helpful insights if you want. PM Me and we can talk more. I know what it's like to be where you are, and I know what it's like to come out the other end, so if you're serious about really wanting this then I can probably help you out.

Either way, welcome and good luck!

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You hit the nail on the head DSapphire! But I appreciate your input aswell chocolatemoose!

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By adding input, Dshapphire now inspired me to purse NLP more !