Hey everyone, I am 16 years old, and I really need some help with this problem, Okay well heres the story, Me and Her dated for almost 3 months, but almost to our 3 month anniversary, she dumped me. Without trying to sound desperate, I asked her if she would atleast give me a second chance to prove myself. She said yes, but at that time I found out she had a boyfriend.. Most of her friends arent too fond of him, niether am I, but I know I cant make her change her mind and come back too me, but I can atleast prove to her that I love her, and I want her back. Please help me out if you can. ~ David

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Dude you are mad young still. you think you are in love but you are infatuated with this girl. As soon as you get other girls you will notice that this girl is not that big a deal. It is so funny how blind you are rght now. Let her go and get another girl, a sexier one. Make her jealous and you will see how much she will want you back. Then it will be your choice if you want her. DONT LET HER HAVE THE POWER MAN!!! your the man and you can have whatever you want.... Until you believe this and believe in yourself, you will be a chump who loves one girl who gave him a chance. . .

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So, girl dumped you and she's dating Jerkface which everyone hates. So, what should you do? She must like him for some reason or another.

So, how do you get her back...don't prove to her you love her. Using the basic form of my Conversational Persuasion Model - you simple find out the NEED of the woman and give it to her.

So, try to find out what she wants in a relationship by asking her questions like:

"I'm curious of what do you want in a relationship?"

She might answer with "Love" or something then you reply back with: "Gotchya, now how do you know if you have gotten that in a relationship?" and she'll reply like something by: "He'll buy me gifts...he'll be nice to me...he'll treat me out..." or something. Now, you ask - "So when you have all those things then you will feel that in the relationship?" if YES then you have elicted her NEED successfully.

Now, how do you go about giving it to her. First, find out what the boyfriend is not doing by asking questions like, "How does your boyfriend feel now?" if she replies with, "Happy" what she's saying is there's a need he's giving her that's is satifying her. It could be the way he teases her, it could be the way he physically touches her or looks in her eyes or creates sexual tension.

Once you have elicited her needs and what she wants in a relationship then you can now persuade her successfully into dumping her boyfriend for you.

Attraction Lost

She lost all attraction, so reinitiate the attraction. Push \ Pull strategy would come in hand here. Push \ Pull is basically teasing her.
Also, you want to make sure you stay busy. If she calls, ignore her calls and talk to other girls and date other girls. If you do talk with her - name drop a couple of girls that you're dating. This will get her to realize what a silly girl she is for dumping such a hot guy you are! No gayness here bro.

If you're talking with her, possibly you want to do things differently what you never did before while you did date her. For instance, sexual tension - talk deeper and more passionately...this will send the girls up the roof. Send her sexual signals like squinting your eyes a bit and grinning a bit while she's talking, tilting your head then have your head go vertical then eyes normal. This will build sexual tension.

All these things will create more attraction to you. Keep in mind the more you show her disinterest and show interest in other girls, the more better you will be then she'll be coming back wanting you're attention. Now, the trick is when she got your attention - do not give your attention fully - always show balanced interest by teasing her, flirting, ignoring phone calls and telling her that you'll call her "in a bit" or "later" or "in a while". Also, anticipation is the key - you want her to keep her in suspense.

Also, I'll shut up now. lol! However, good luck and let me know!

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Sounds really immature and she doenst even sound worth it one bit. Turn your back on her, show her that she isn't worth it, and that you are, and you arent a guy to be played with

Like someone mentioned, you're 16. I know you probably really like this chick, and you had good times, but think about this:
Why did she dump you?
What drove her to do that?
Is it something that you did wrong?
Is it just because she's young and immature?

I dont mean to grill you with all those questions, but you need to understand why she lost interest in you and prevent it from happening with another chick. If it happens to be your fault, great you can fix the problem.

If it's just because she's young and fickle, which what I'm putting my money on, then forget her and meet other girls. You dont deserve a chick that just abandons you, and because I remember HS vividly I guarantee if you start showing interest in other girls she'll come crawling back.

Hey Dude,

I know ur probably really hurting right now and the last thing u want is advice from an AFC thats more than twice your age but here it is........ the above advice is good but... what I think you should do is stop focusing on the girl.... or any other girl for that matter and focus on how you are dealing with your feelings. Your are going to get shit on many times in this life weather u like it or not.... If you can handle the shit in a constructive manner you can then make a clear decission yourself about your next move. Getting the girl back is a short term fix at your age.... Understanding how to handle the loss and how to prevent it again is a long term cure. Zigzag

*sigh.

You need to spend alot of time in the forums.