Hey everyone,

So heres the scoop. Im 18, Im a Music Producer/Writer and I live in LA. I've had a lack of confidence with girls my entire life and have always have an awful time making things happen. In my career, with friends etc, I have ounces of confidence but when it comes to girls I fall FLAT on my face..

I tend to end up in a few similar situations EVERY time I approach a girl or DONT approach a girl and I figured Id come to you all and see if you could help me figure out what Im doing wrong.

1. Im afraid to make a move at all. - I see a girl when Im out and about and instead of making a movie or even saying HI I become shy/stalkerish and just allow myself to loose control of the situation and nothing happens.

2. I meet a girl and really like her but I end up as the "happy go lucky/good guy/best friend/etc" - For some reason when I approach a girl after meeting her in what ever way or another I end up as just the friend and nothing more. "Don't see you like that", etc. Those are the typical reactions. Im a very open guy with very little mystery left and I know that is probably part of it.

3. I feel like I try and rush things.

ANYTHING you can offer as advice means a lot to me.

Best,
MPLA

Hey MPLA, I hope this helps a little. I know how hard it can be to have the balls to approach ladies. Just remember that women love confidence and they usually get approached on the reg daily by guys, so think about how you will stand out from the rest of the crowd.

1.Have you read The Game by Niel Strauss? If not that is the first thing you MUST do. It will tell you how to deal with many situations like these.

2. Most women are just as afraid of approaching another person as you are. As a guy its kinda our "job" to make the move. So don't stress and think about it so much or you will stumble. It doesn't matter if you get the number, what matters is that you learn from every experience in life.

3. Think about the times you got a girlfriend or some girl you hooked up with. What did you do that got you to that point? Try and implement those things you did right and apply them to your future or current situations.

Hey man!

Thanks a bunch for the advice!!

Honestly the most important thing is preventing the Friend Zone shit...How do I do that?