Hi, first off let me say that the type of women I like I already know are bad for me, but I for some reason stick with it. I can link you to a thread explaining all that later, but can't post links yet. I am an attractive guy with a bodybuilder physique, and the only reason I want to learn PUA skills is to have a successful relationship. I have not officially ever had a girlfriend and of my relationships, I had, they all died within a month. However, there is this one girl that I like that so far, we been talking for 3 months and I do NOT want to mess up again. I am not a virgin, but can't get off unless I am attached to a girl, found that out with my ex. Had a fuck buddy with a girl I thought I would like, but because she lacked problems, I couldn't get attached. I am a mess, but would like just to understand where I go wrong. I will start a thread about my interactions with this girl I am talking to as well as background. For now, I am going to browse some threads and learn.

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I've been hit on before and had opportunities, but when I am legitimately interested, I can't hold a relationship. However, as soon as I don't care, it works out okay for me.

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:[ ... I won't do it again, just I think I have a SERIOUS problem. Trying not to be conceited, but.... getting laid should be EASY for me, but it only happens when I don't care about the chick, the problem being... I don't wanna get laid if I don't care about the chick. :/ ... Was trying to post pics as to say, women should be interested in me. I sound like an ass, but just trying to be honest about it.

Why do you talk down about yourself with these lines? You my friend need to get that inner game going ASAP! Not sure if you meant to do this but the way you phrased that response came off that you doubt yourself.

Also being a good looking guy is great and grand but its isn't the cure-all that makes women instantly attracted to you. A guy could look like Brad Pitt's stunt double but if he opens his mouth and has no personality or bounce to his step, he is going to turn out to be a AFC who depends purely on his looks to get women.

The way you phrased your 'problem' (I personally would refer to it as your 'perceived situation' - no negative energy attached to the meaning of those words IMO) it seems you depend on your looks quite a bit in your 'game' and the girls you do get with that 'game' are not ones that you care for. My challenge to you is to pull away from depending on (or worrying about) your looks and start with developing an Alpha male characteristic within your personality and thought pattern. Step #1 to begin this transformation is to change that pattern of thoughts I quoted at the top of this post. If you're built like an Alpha and carry yourself like an Alpha that is great but worthless unless you have the charisma, the confidence and the thought patterns of an Alpha.

You mentioned that one target, a girl you have been 'talking' to for 3 months. After 3 months what has gone down between you two? The saying 'taking things slow' is one the worst. Ask anyone in a room to draw a time line of what they define as 'taking a relationship slow' is and everyone's answer will vary. I will be looking forward to reading your breakdown of your current situation with the 3month target.

***Side Note - Just to let you know, I may have joined these forums about the same day as you but I've been through a lot of transformations over the last 3 years using PUA techniques learned through reading books and field testing - If I came off as a little bit ignorant in my post, I apologize. I just wish to see everyone succeed and be happy with the women (or woman) they can bring into their life. ***