Hi all,

I've been checking out this forum, which I had found it years ago but never too late to start.

I've never really been a PUA to be honest... Had long relationships at too young and age that eat up all my twenties... I'm 32 now.

Recently been approaching women and doing alright in terms of numbers etc...

From here I learnt as long as you have many possibilities you can't get upset if and when you get a knockback from a girl. Which leads me to a question.

I met a cool girl on a dating site.. Oh about 2 months back... Hit it off quite well so we met up... took her to a bar... did not kiss her but when I got in she was texting me so we exchanged a couple of flirty texts.

Next morning she texts me again... I respond a bit later.

Then next day she sends me joke.

I decide to call her the day after... leave a VM. I could've been more breezy but it's all a learning experience.

She calls back saying she's busy all week but would be in touch.

I left it.

Over the next few weeks she sends random texts about situations shes been in... Not much for me to work with so I mirrorred them.

Anyway, I text sometime asking if she wanted to meet. She called, i missed her call called back later she never answered.

That was the last I heard so I just text asking what she's been up to got no response so left it. Being new to this game I realised I should have other options so pursued them.

Basically forgot about this girl and was on messenger 2 nights ago... she pops up saying she was thinking about me that day and told me an amusing story. We shoot the breeze but nothing really flirty. She was clearly chatting to other people as her responses were slow. I never asked her out or where she's been what she's been up to.

I logged off after we had silence to my last comment.

On facebook, 1 day after I made a comment on her profile pic which she 'liked'.

That's it.

So question is... when a girl has this much control as she does is there any play I can do or just NEXT her? She seems cool but man she's aloof.

Thanks people and HI!

Girls like that frustrate the heck out of me. I understand sometimes life comes up and people get busy but sheesh! You know you'd think if you met someone on a dating site you talked to that much you'd go out with them at least.

If it's like this now can you imagine what dating her would be like? Personally, I would move on to someone who is more interested in what I have to offer. Maybe on day she'll come around but better we don't sit around waiting on Ms. Flakey.

Ha ha,

Very very true!

Well getting the first date was easy as she made the time and throughout the night said a number of times, "You're doing well, I never stay out this long on first dates..."

Looking back I should have tried to close it there but me as person when someone seems to pull on me I push back to keep interest.

But it's all a learning experience.

Anyway thanks for your reply and you are spot on she would be a nightmare to date! She's like this with everyone.

Positives to take from this - I was not reacting to her by questioning her availability once or her behaviour. This is good for my game.

So was on messenger the other day.

She pipes up and then calls me on my mobile, was all emotional about a report for work or something.

I was not that interested and did not give her the attention like an old nice guy would. We just had a laugh. I did not ask to meet up seeing as the absence was so long and she'd not agreed previously.

I text 2 days later with a joke and asked how her report was going.

Yep no reply. HAHA. As said above she would be a nightmare! This one.

I am pursuing other leads but my attitude is you have nothing to lose by pursueing many.