you should be somewhat in control. by that, i don't mean the convo should just be about you, and what you like. but if she's going on for 5 hours about Prada's new range of adjustable bra straps, or something equally as mundane, chances are, your not going to sleep with her. she, as much as you, wants the conversation to thrill.

the aim, while getting to know her, should also be to take her on a journey. make her FEEL different things. so after a little of her talking, tell a story of your own. one that might make her happy, or feel like a kid again. or discuss some issue that might fire her up, make her angry (say you know she's a vegetarian for ethical reasons, tell her about the time you caught and killed your own baby deer and roasted it ), or make her sad (i've got a few stories about kids that brings the most hardened bitch to tears).

the idea behind it is, we don't feel we know someone purely by knowing the facts (you don't know me just because i say i live in australia, drive a landcruiser, am a qualified Biologist, and have a dog)... but by experiencing emotions together.

if i can get you (or a HB) to FEEL with me the joys and laughter of owning the most brain damaged dog on earth, you will feel you know me a little better than before.

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