Today was arguably the worst day of my life.

I am AFC. I am worse than AFC. I am a 26 year old virgin. I have been talking to this girl for 3 years (she is a friend, but I have one-itis), She is older, and today she told me how she spent her days last summer looking for a boy-toy.

I had been being her friend because I thought that would make her like me. She told me today that she is attracted to the bad boys. And I am not a bad boy.

This is the worst day of my life. I am now going to get in shape, get a life, do something. Help me please. But I know only I can.

Its pathetic.

I am now going to get in shape, get a life, do something.

This is the conviction we love to hear. Don't lose it. It's so easy to claim you're gonna make big changes and then lose the passion because the task seems daunting. Make sure to set some short term, attainable, "first step" goals to get yourself going.

Getting in shape is a great area for this. You don't need a great body to pick up women, but working out is an excellent way to get into that "vibe" of revamping your lifestyle. Get on a schedule (better yet, with a buddy to keep you accountable) and work on those abs. ; )

And don't worry, you're one-itis doesn't like "bad boys," she only thinks she does. She likes alphas, and if you're serious about it you're gonna learn how to be one. (But remember, none of this is for her, it's for you.)

Welcome to the boards. See you around.

Welcome, most people have had one-itis at some stage, me not so long ago!

Be positive, make changes, and stick to them, build a lifestyle, use the forum, you can learn and develop yourself.

Head up man!

Chel!

Thanks Charlatan - you hit it right on man.

And thanks Chel - for the optimism and the can-do.

No worries man, life is what you make it, so make it good, starting from today! Happiness and success is never so far away.

If you look into many of the PUA around, they didn't start till mid 20's. You have nothing to fear, trust me.

I'm 3 years older than you and I think i've encountered a oneitis recently. I've done some truly AFC things when it comes to this girl.

What I'm trying to do is learn from the past, not dwell on it as negative and forge ahead. You are young, you are the perfect age to start this stuff.

Hello The Executive. Pick up the E-book called Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo on the internet. It'll inspire you and give you very insightful ideas about women

Dating older women is fine don't bow down to Social Conditioning.

If you do worry look at programmes like Desperate Housewives/Cougartown.