Hey guys,
I live in Belgium and I'm 18 years old; so it should be the time of my life where I should be so happy that I almost would beg to grow up a bit. But it isn't the fact; instead I'm begging to get some more overall respect and attraction from the girls!
I came in the game by a friend. On another fitness forum he came up with a problem and I tried to help him; so we became friends online and we discussed some stuff; he also showed me some interesting stuff about picking up; and now I'm totally going for it.
I'm a pretty newb in picking up; especially the practical side is new for me. I know 'how' to do it; but I hesitate to much to approach and finally I also think; "why on earth would I open with this lame opener, it sounds ridiculous!'.
I'm rather a fan of an indirect approach, because I don't feel 'cool' enough to approach directly. I know I'm a very kind guy, I am rational, but I also love to philosophying and fantasizing. So there is also an emotional and funny side; but mostly it only comes out of me when I do know the other person much better.
I had many hobbies; but these days, I like to go to the gym and hit the heavy iron and the other moments I have free time, I go to my friends and I go party at a club, pub or loungebar.
I don't really like to watch sports, I prefer to do them by myself. So I used to do martial arts and some ball sports, like football and tennis. I also used to run some miles or go on my bike for a ride.
To give you some measurements:
length: 180cm / 70.9 in
weight: 68kg / 149.9 lbs
BF%: +/- 14% (trying to lower to 8%)
I look pretty fit in my clothes, maybe not sharp enough.
I use to dress myself up casual and with style (suit, classic jeans/trousers, classic shirt/polo/sweater, nice belt, classic brown shoes or all stars) ; but I don't mind to wear sometimes fashion hoodies (superdry, abercrombie, hollister). But I don't have a nice looking watch or pilot sunglasses ;(
So for the moment I study at university; I was grown up in a group of ritch people that are all well educated and are always wearing stylish clothes (don't imagine them like nerds, caus they aren't). So like you see, I hang out with this kind of people; I have a good connection with a few of them, because we were on a boarding school.
The problem is, that I didn't really make a good impression there. I used to be a fatty and I didn't have a lot of confidence. So I never used to say a lot against girls and I was more of a quiet guy. My parents are also older, and my dad doesn't care how he clothes himself, so I'm always embarressed when I have to go with him somewhere; still he is social skilled and can make a good talk with people. My mother instead is from a foreign country and she does not say much or she say things that I also get a shamed off.
There is another problem also, I have a thin skin on my face and it gets red very quickly and there is also a reaction of shame for something out of nothing, that triggers red cheeks. But I'm able to control it more and more, and I try to feel more comfortable when I'm going out.
So what I want to reach is the following:
- I want to have the respect of all people surrounding me.
- I want to get the attraction of a lot of high status and preferable beautiful women.
For now, I'm just showing with my body language I'm alpha. So I take space, I have my eyes pretty closed, a little smile, walking slowly and straight (like a model), not leaning in, turning my head slowly when someone says my name, holding eye contact until the other person breaks it.
Still, I do fail in attracting women. I open up conversations with mostly men I don't know or friends of my friends.
I have to opportunity to go out daily and I just tell you how it was yesterday:
I first went to a friend, where we drunk some beer with 6 guys or something (meeting place). Than we went to a pub and we warmed up a bit, some drinking and dancing. You could see the girls looked frequently to our small table where we were having fun.
After warming up we went to a party of a studentclub; not so many people yet on the dancefloor. So i went in, and I knew I would know some people; in fact I knew 3/4 of the people at that moment lol. So i gave a good handshake to all and said hi. I was in the mood and I started up a conversation with 4 friends of my friend. I leaded the conversation and than I went upstairs to say hi to the rest. Than we started partying on the dancefloor. I was standing on a higher surface. I noticed a group of 3 guys beneath me were talking about me and watching me; I don't know why? Was I overenthusiastic?
I had to go also to another party but we just went in and came back to that party, because there wasn't a good SPAM. So once back, I started to party again; but I felt like something wasn't right. I had to party more on my own than something else; I knew some people there, but all were standing in groups and when I tried to get in the groups I was 'pushed out' of them. I don't get it why people aren't interested in what I have to say
To explain the situation better; I was at a party where I knew a lot of the people from the studentclub (learned to know them in the examperiod, we studied together in a room). But they are all older than me. For me it's my first year at university. And they are threating me and my friend more like garbage I think; they laugh with us. One said come with me and watch; and he danced with a girl; than he introduced her to me. And she said that he was laughing with me; I backfired by saying that It's actually funnier to laugh with the fact that he is 4 years older than me and still is sitting in his first year.
Then, I went to a pub where they party also. I again, settled myself on top, dancing with my friends. Once they went to bed, I just kept dancing. I didn't take long, or a guy who was 3 years older than me and had been on my school came to me and started talking about my appearance, he wanted to help me and he told me it was pathetic; he talked to me about approaching women etc.
But I don't get it; while partying that night I observed what the 'cool' guys did to take the girls. They just came to them without hestitating and they putted their arms around their neck and did some party moves. That guy who came to me, told me I had to say hi to some girls and don't go deeply into a conversation and go away; do it to many women and he said they would came back to him in the end of the evening (; rather morning actually lol).
So this is my story; I hope someone could help me
CHAT