Hey everyone. My name is Shadie and I'm new to the community. I started later than most people with dating and I feel like I have a lot of ground to make up. Since I was 20, I have never gone more than a month without being in a relationship. I guess I'm what you would call a serial monogamist. The only problem is that I'm settling with the women I choose to date. The ones that look ok turn out to be psycho and the ones I can connect with don't look the way I want them to. I'm hoping to learn from everyone here and attract the kind of woman that I truly want. Any help or advice you can give would be appreciated, especially if you live in the Tampa area.

Hey Shadie

It sounds like you've got high standards - if so, your in the same boat as me. I'm very picky with women, and not just about looks. Here's my girl filter:

1. Find an attractive target. HB8+ is what I go for, and I won't feel it necessary to approach if they don't meet my look standards.

2. If they pass the looks test, then I move in and get to know them. This is where I find out about their personality and who they are, and if this impresses me, I continue on.

Thats really it. You know how they always say "Beauty is on the inside?" and all that 'inside' stuff? I just can't get a grasp on it. Looks matter to me. Sure, I miss out on potential wives who are wonderful people that aren't so good looking, but I still meet them and befriend them. I just don't move on with them into an intimate relationship.

Anyway enough about me. The point is, don't settle. Settling for less than what YOU want is not fair to YOU or HER. When you do that you are basically dating a lie. Anything long term could never work like this - for a one night stand, settling might work. But even then, definitely not encouraged.

One of the principle philosophies of game is to take what you want. Seize the moment. If you see a girl you want, get her. Game helps you get her, but the philosophy is what counts - living life for you. Sounds selfish, I know. But in the end, it helps everyone. You will be a happier person.

Well I've rambled enough here. Welcome to the community, I'm Sharplin!

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