I've been reading a lot of good stuff from this site and it's already helped me a ton. I finally got an account because I've graduated from taking stuff in and now I have a lot of questions to ask!

First, intro:
Until now I've seen myself as a primo dude who easily got ladies, but now I find that it's mostly been luck. My personality is a jokester, but yet a gentleman. I open doors for them and pull their chairs out, but if they say something stupid I call them on it! I've been on tons of dates and they all go wonderfully! The problem is sometimes I get asked by ladies on dates and we all know when a lady comes to you and doesn't play hard to get she's usually a 5 or below, for sure. So I go on dates with these "easies" quite often just for the fun of it or something, I don't know why I do, kind of a waste so it's kind of gotten to bothering me. Don't get me wrong, I still ask ladies I want on dates and it works out great, but now with all this info here comes some of my questions.

How do I politely say "No thanks, I'm not attracted to you."?
--I've kind of been using the I've got a lot of work and probably won't be able to make it, but since Facebook is a MONSTER they find me, ask if I'm off work and stalk me like below 5'rs with too much time and no personality are prone to do. I just don't want them to kill themselves by my saying no. Friends = OK, psycho stalker = NO WAY!

I go on a date with a choice chick and end up wanting to keep her around and get goo-goo eyed. WHY?!
--I get to dating a lady I actually want to take out and after a short while I see her through romance-stage eyes and want to push all the other ladies away to try and keep her. (self-imposed one-itus)

This all happens after I get her number, we talk, go on the first, second and third dates and everything goes completely GREAT, no problems, no snags and all fun! I like her a ton, but how am I convincing myself I like her more than the 8 billion other ladies?

And so it's been going on like that. I find a lovely lady, I avoid all other girls and feel guilty if I date anyone else but her like I'd offend her or something? I'm not sure. It goes great for a while, but then comes the next disappointment stage and both she and I lose our appeal. I feel bad for dropping her so I go on feeling like a cramp-tard around her and eventually I lose (or drop) what I once thought was so precious. It's happened to me 4 times in the last 5 months.

The problem is I actually really like each one of these girls I get into relationships with, they're cool! Some play video games and others snowboard and they're actually fun to hang out with! So I guess my question here is how do I keep a girl interested on the sort of higher than friend level without giving her the impression that I want a deep relationship. I want time with her to figure her out, find out if she's relationship material but all while dating her friends guilt-free. haha

-AFC, one-itus, punk-gent

Quite a few views, but no opinions yet, just wondering if anybody have some insight they can lend. I really try to not be a douche, because who knows if they have hot friends So what do you say when the gross grocery bag girl is hitting on you and asks for your number?

I feel ur pain bro I have the same problem. From the knowledge I aqiured from this site I thinkits because we exude our greatness around females we don't want and can be our true selves. But when we are around chicks we really like we try to project our greatness and love for them. And when u try to do something it's very different from just doing it.

I think u need to work on building sexual tension in the females u really want so they won't get bored with u. As far a rejecting chicks, don't u can use them to build up ur status.

Ima n00b and these are just thoughts.

I did not know the proper term for what I was missing, but sexual tension seems to be about exactly what I'm lacking here. Like most guys I'm all too happy to be with a lady I like and usually screw it up by being too available and ruining the challenge for them!

I mean, what are my kisses worth if they're available at any time?! Now it makes perfect sense! Law of supply and demand, decrease the supply, increase the demand!

So now how do I go from being way too interested to more of a challenge without coming off as uninterested or rude?