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This is Neil Strauss's glossary from the end of The Game, it's pretty comprehensive
AFC—noun [average frustrated chump]: a stereotypical nice guy who has no
pickup skills or understanding of what attracts women; a man who tends to en-
gage in supplicative and wimpy patterns of behavior around women he has not
yet slept with. Origin: Ross Jeffries.
AMOG— 1. noun [alpha male of the group or alpha male other guy]: a socially
comfortable male who competes with a pickup artist for a woman or inter-
feres with a pickup artist's game. Origin: 01d_Dog. 2. verb: to remove a poten-
tial male competitor—through physical, verbal, or psychological tactics—from
a group of women. Also: outalpha. Origin: Tyler Durden.
ANCHOR—1. noun: an external stimulus (a sight, sound, or touch) that triggers
a specific emotional or behavioral response, such as a song that makes one
happy because it's reminiscent of a positive life event. Anchors are used by
pickup artists to associate themselves with a woman's feelings of attraction. 2.
verb: the act of creating an association between an external stimulus and an
emotional or behavioral response. Origin: Richard Bandler and John Grinder.
ASD—noun [anti-slut defense]: the maneuvers some women make to avoid tak-
ing responsibility for initiating or agreeing to sex; or in order to avoid appear-
ing slutty to the man she is with, to her friends, to society, or to herself. This can
occur before or after sex, or it can prevent sex from occurring. Origin: Yaritai.
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BF—noun [boyfriend].
BF DESTROYER—noun [boyfriend destroyer]: a pattern, routine, or line a
pickup artist uses with the intention of seducing a woman who has a boyfriend.
BITCH SHIELD— noun: a woman's defensive response to deter unknown men
who approach her. Though her reaction to an opening line may be rude, this
does not necessarily mean the woman herself is rude, or even impossible to en-
gage in a conversation.
BLUR—verb or adjective: an occurrence in which a woman stops returning calls,
although she was initially interested in the man phoning.
BUYING TEMPERATURE—noun: the degree to which a woman is ready to make
intimate physical contact with a man. Unlike attraction, a high buying tempera-
ture generally appears and fades quickly. To maintain a woman's level of physical
interest over a longer period of time, a pickup artist attempts to pump her buying
temperature with fast-paced routines. Origin: Tyler Durden.
CALIBRATE—verb: to read the verbal and nonverbal responses of a person or
group and accurately deduce what they are thinking or feeling at that moment.
Origin: Richard Bandler and John Grinder.
CAVEMAN—verb: to directly and aggressively escalate physical contact, and
progress toward sex, with a consenting woman; predicated on the idea that early
human beings did not use intelligence and words but instinct and strength to
mate. Also: to go caveman.
CHICK CRACK—noun: any spiritual or psychological subject that appeals to
most women but does not interest most men, such as astrology, tarot cards, and
personality tests. Origin: Tyler Durden.
COCKBLOCK—noun and verb: a person who interferes with or hinders a pickup
artist's game, whether accidentally or on purpose. A cockblock can be a friend
of the woman, a friend of the pickup artist, or a complete stranger.
CRASH AND BURN—verb: to be directly, and often rudely, rejected or turned
away by a woman or group one has just approached.
DAY TWO—noun: a first date. Also: second meeting.
DHV—noun or verb [demonstration of higher value]: a routine in which the
pickup artist displays a skill or attribute that raises his worth or appeal in the
estimation of a woman or group; it is intended to make him stand out from the other, less interesting men in the club. Antonym: DLV [demonstration of lower
value].
DOGGY DINNER BOWL LOOK—noun: the entranced expression a woman gets
in her eyes when she is attracted to a man who is talking to her. Also: DDB. Ori-
gin: Ross Jeffries.
ELICIT VALUES—verb phrase: to draw out, through conversation, what is im-
portant to a person, usually with the intention of reaching a deep inner desire
that motivates them. In terms of seduction, eliciting values may help a man de-
termine that a woman who says she is looking for a rich husband is actually just
looking for a feeling of safety and security. Also: EV. Origin: Richard Bandler and
John Grinder.
FALSE TAKEAWAY-see takeaway.
FALSE TIME CONSTRAINT-see time constraint.
FB—noun [fuck buddy]: a woman with whom a man engages in casual,
consensual sex without an emotional attachment or relationship expecta-
tions.
FIELD—noun: any public place where a pickup artist can meet women.
FIELD REPORT—noun: a written account of a pickup or a night out picking up
women, usually posted online. Also: FR. Other types of reports include an OR
(outing report), LR (lay report), FU (fuckup report), and TR (threesome report).
FIELD TEST—verb: to experiment with and perfect a pickup tactic or routine
on a number of women in different social situations before sharing it with
other pickup artists.
FLAKE—verb: an occurrence in which a woman cancels or does not show up to
a planned meeting.
FLUFF—verb: to make mundane small talk, typically between two people who
have just met; common subjects include where one lives, what one does for
work, and general interests and hobbies.
FMAC—noun [find, meet, attract, close]: a rudimentary, sequential model of
pickup. Origin: Mystery.
FRAME—noun: the context within which a person, thing, event, or environment
is perceived. Origin: Richard Bandler and John Grinder.
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FREEZE OUT—verb or noun: to ignore a woman to make her seek validation;
usually used as a technique to counter last-minute resistance.
FULL-CLOSE—1. verb: to have sexual intercourse. 2. noun: sexual intercourse.
Also: fuck closed-close, or [close. Origin: Mystery.
GROUP THEORY—noun: the idea that women are usually accompanied by
friends, and to meet her a man must simultaneously win the approval of her
friends while actively demonstrating a lack of interest in her. Origin: Mystery.
HB —noun [hot babe]: a term used by members of the seduction community to
refer to attractive women. When discussing a specific woman, it is often fol-
lowed by either a numerical ranking of her beauty—such as HB10—or by a nick-
name, such as HBRedhead. Origin: Aardvark.
HIRED GUNS —noun: female employees in the service industry who are gener-
ally recruited for their attractiveness, such as bartenders, waitresses, shot girls,
and strippers. Origin: Mystery.
HOOK POINT—noun: the moment in a pickup when a woman (or a group) de-
cides that she enjoys the company of a man who has recently approached her
and doesn't want him to leave. Origin: Style.
INSTANT DATE—noun: the act of taking a woman one has just met from one
venue to another in the same day, typically from a bustling environment to one
more conducive to getting to know each other, such as from a bar to a diner or
from the street to a cafe. Origin: Mystery.
IOI—noun [indicator of interest]: a sign a woman gives a man that indirectly re-
veals she is attracted to or interested in him. These clues, generally unintentional
and subtle, include leaning toward a man when he speaks, asking mundane ques-
tions to keep a conversation going, or squeezing his hand when he takes her
hand in his. Antonym: IOD [Indicator of Disinterest]. Origin: Mystery.
IVD—noun [interactive value demonstration]: a short routine intended to hook
the attention and interest of a woman one has just met by teaching her some-
thing about herself. Origin: Style.
KINO—verb [from kinesthesia, noun]: to touch or be touched, generally with
suggestive intent or the purpose of arousal, such as hair-stroking, hand-
holding, or hip-grabbing; precedes actual sexual contact. Origin: Ross Jeffries.
KISS-CLOSE—1. verb: to kiss or make out, with passion. 2. noun: a passionate
kiss or makeout. Also: k-close or *close. Origin: Mystery. LJBF—verb or adjective [let's just be friends]: a statement a woman makes to a
man to indicate that she is not sexually or romantically interested in him. One
can hear an LJBF speech or get LJBF'ed.
LMR—noun [last minute resistance]: an occurrence, often after kissing, in which
a woman who desires a man prevents him, through words or actions, from pro-
gressing toward more intimate sexual contact, such as removing her bra, put-
ting his hand down her pants, or penetration.
LSE—adjective [low self-esteem]: used to describe a woman who is insecure
and tends to engage in self-effacing or self-destructive behavior. Origin:
MrSex4uNYC.
LTR—noun [long-term relationship]: a girlfriend.
MANAGE EXPECTATIONS—verb: to let a woman know before sleeping with
her roughly how committed a relationship one intends to have with her, so that
she does not expect too much or too little.
MLTR—noun [multiple long-term relationship]: a woman who is part of a
harem, or one of many girlfriends a pickup artist is currently seeing and sleep-
ing with. Ideally, the pickup artist is honest with his MLTRs and informs them
chat he is seeing other women. Origin: Svengali.
MM—noun [Mystery Method]: a school of seduction started by Mystery that fo-
cuses on indirect group approaches. Origin: Mystery.
MODEL—verb: to observe and imitate the behavior of another person, typically
someone who possesses a trait or skill one wishes to acquire. Origin: Richard
Bandler and John Grinder.
MPB—noun [male pattern blindness]: some men's inability to recognize that a
woman is attracted to and interested in him until after she leaves and it's too
late to act on it. Origin: Vincent.
MPUA—noun [master pickup artist]: a player who excels at the game, and whose
skills put him in the top 1 percent of the seduction community.
MYSTERY'S LOUNGE—noun. a private, members-only online forum where
many of the leading pickup artists in the community exchange techniques,
photographs, and field reports. Origin: Mystery.
NEG—noun: an ambiguous statement or seemingly accidental insult delivered
to a beautiful woman a pickup artist has just met, with the intent of actively
demonstrating to her (or her friends) a lack of interest in her. For example:
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"Those are nice nails; are they real?" 2. Verb: to actively demonstrate a lack of in-
terest in a beautiful woman by making an ambiguous statement, insulting her
in a way that appears accidental, or offering constructive criticism. Also: neg bit.
Origin: Mystery.
NEWBIE MISSION—noun: an exercise designed to help shy men overcome
their fear of approaching women. The newbie mission involves spending a day
in a public area, such as a mall, and saying "hi" to every woman who passes by.
NLP—noun [neuro-linguistic programming]: a school of hypnosis developed in
the 1970s based largely on the techniques of Milton Erickson. Unlike traditional
hypnosis, in which subjects are put to sleep, it is a form of waking hypnosis in
which subtle conversational cues and physical gestures are used to influence a
person on a subconscious level. Origin: Richard Bandler and John Grinder.
NONVERSATION—noun: a conversation in which one person isn't paying at-
tention to what the other person is saying, generally due to lack of interest or
being distracted. Origin: Style.
NUMBER-CLOSE—1. verb: to obtain a correct phone number from a woman.
Note that giving a woman one's own number does not constitute a number-
close. 2. noun: a woman's phone number, obtained during the course of a
pickup. Also: #close. Origin; Mystery.
OBSTACLE—noun: the person or people in a group whom the pickup artist
does not desire, but whom he must win over in order to run game on the
woman in the group he does desire. Origin: Mystery.
ONE-ITIS—noun: 1. an obsession with a girl whom one is not dating; pickup
artists believe that such an extreme fixation on one woman significantly lowers
a man's chances of dating or sleeping with her. 2. a girl with whom one is ob-
sessed. Origin: John C. Ryan.
OPENER—noun: a statement, question, or story used to initiate a con-
versation with a stranger or group of strangers. Openers may be envi-
ronmental (spontaneous) or canned (pre-scripted); and direct (showing
romantic or sexual interest in a woman) or indirect (not showing interest).
OUTALPHA-verb; see AMOG.
PAIMAI—noun [pre-approach invitation, male approach invitation]: a nonver-
bal action or series of actions meant to induce a woman or group to notice a
man and passively express interest in meeting him before he actually ap-
proaches her. Origin: Formhandle. PATTERN—noun: a speech, usually scripted, that is based on a series of neuro-
linguistic programming phrases designed to attract or arouse a woman.
PATTERN INTERRUPT—noun: an unexpected word, phrase, or action per-
formed suddenly in order to halt a person's auto-pilot response before it's com-
pleted, such as cutting off a woman who's talking about her ex-boyfriend and
quickly changing the subject. Origin: Richard Bandler and John Grinder.
PAWN—1. verb: to approach and talk to one group of people in order to meet a
woman or group adjacent to it. 2. noun: a person one approaches in order to
meet a nearby woman or group. A pawn can be an acquaintance or stranger.
Origin: Mystery.
PEACOCK—verb: to dress in loud clothing or with flashy accoutrements in or-
der to get attention from women. Peacocking items include bright shiny shirts,
light-up jewelry, feather boas, colorful cowboy hats, or anything else that makes
one stand out in a crowd. Origin: Mystery.
PHASE-SHIFT—verb: to make the transition, during a one-on-one conversa-
tion with a woman, from ordinary calk to slower, sexually-charged talk, touch,
or body language; intended to precede an attempt to kiss. Origin: Mystery.
PIVOT—noun: a woman, usually a friend, used in social situations to help one
meet other women. A pivot serves many functions: she provides social proof,
she can create jealousy in the target, she can make it easier to open difficult sets,
and she can brag about the pickup artist to his target. Also: wingwoman.
PROXIMITY ALERT SYSTEM—noun: the state of being aware of a woman or
group of women who are standing awkwardly nearby in hopes of being talked
to. Generally, the woman will have her back to the pickup artist, so as to make
her presence there seem accidental. Origin: Mystery.
PUSH-PULL—noun: a technique used to create or increase attraction, in
which a man gives a woman indications that he is not interested in her
followed by indications that he is. This sequence can take place in a few
seconds—such as taking a woman's hands and then dropping them as if you
don't trust her yet—or over time, such as being very nice during one phone
conversation but then very distant and abrupt during the next one. Origin:
Style.
RAFC—noun [reformed average frustrated chump]: a seduction student who
has not yet become a pickup artist or mastered the skills offered by the com-
munity.
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REFRAME—verb: to alter the context through which someone sees an idea or
situation; to change the meaning a person attributes to an idea or situation.
Origin: Richard Bandler and John Grinder.
ROUTINE—noun: a story, scripted conversation, demonstration of skill, or
other piece of prepared material intended to initiate, maintain, or advance an
interaction with a woman or her group. Examples include the best-friends test,
the evolution phase-shift, and the ESP value-demonstration.
RSD— noun [Real Social Dynamics]: a company specializing in pickup seminars,
workshops, and products started by Papa and Tyler Durden. Origin: Papa.
SARGE—1. verb: to pick up women, or to go out to try and meet women. 2.
noun: a woman who has been picked up. Origin: Aardvark.
SARGER—noun: a person who picks up women; a member of the pickup com-
munity.
SECOND MEETING—noun: a first date. Also: day two.
SET—noun: a group of people in a social setting. A two-set is a group of two peo-
ple; a three-set is three people, and so on. Sets may contain women, men, or
both (in which case they may be referred to as mixed sets). Origin: Mystery.
SHB—noun [super hot babe]: an extremely attractive woman.
SHIT TEST—noun: a question, demand, or seemingly hostile comment made by
a woman intended to gauge whether a man is strong enough to be a worthy
boyfriend or sexual partner. If he takes the question, demand, or comment at
face value, he fails and generally loses the opportunity to move forward in his
interaction with her. Examples include telling him he is too young or old for
her, or asking him to perform an unnecessary favor.
SHOTGUN NEG—noun: a type of neg used in a group situation with a woman,
intended to amuse the group at her expense. Origin: Mystery.
SNIPER NEG—noun: A type of neg used to embarrass a woman while talking
one-on-one with her. Origin: Mystery.
SOI—noun [statement of intent or show of interest]: a direct comment intended
to let a woman know that one is attracted to or impressed with her. Origin: Rio.
SS—noun [Speed Seduction]: an NLP-based school of pickup founded by Ross
Jeffries in the 1980s. Origin: Ross Jeffries. STALE—verb or adjective: an occurrence in which the phone number of a woman
is no longer an effective means of making plans with her, usually because too
much time has lapsed between interactions and the woman has lost interest;
may also be used to describe a woman who has lost interest in a pickup artist.
STYLEMOG—noun or verb: a subtle set of tactics, mannerisms, backhanded
compliments, and responses used to keep a pickup artist dominant in a group.
Origin: Tyler Durden.
SUBCOMMUNICATION—noun: an impression, message, or effect created by a
person's mannerisms, dress, or general presence; an indirect, nonverbal form of
communication generally perceived better by women than men. Origin: Tyler
Durden.
SUPPLICATE—verb: to put oneself in a servile or inferior position in order to
please a woman, such as buying her a drink or changing an opinion in order to
agree with her.
SYNESTHESIA—noun: literally, an overlapping of the senses, such as smelling
a color; in seduction, a name given to a type of waking hypnosis in which a
woman is put into a heightened state of awareness and told to imagine pleasur-
able images and sensations growing in intensity. The goal is to arouse her
through suggestive, metaphorical talk, sensations, and imagery. Also: hyper-
emperia.
TAKEAWAY—noun: a pickup technique in which a man who has approached a
woman and is getting along with her leaves—for as little as a few seconds or as
long as a couple hours—in order to demonstrate a lack of neediness and in-
crease her attraction to him. Also: false takeaway.
TARGET—noun: the woman in a group whom the pickup artist desires and is
running game on. Origin: Mystery.
THREE-SECOND RULE—noun: a guideline stating that a woman should be
approached within three seconds of first seeing her. It is intended to prevent the
man from thinking about the approach too much and getting nervous, as well
as to keep him from creeping the woman out by staring at her for too long. Ori-
gin: Mystery.
TIME CONSTRAINT—noun: to tell a woman or a group of people that it is nec-
essary to leave them soon. The purpose of a time constraint is to lessen a
woman's anxiety that a man she has just met will hang around her all night, or
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that she is expected to have sex with a man upon entering his house. Also: false
time constraint. Origin: Style.
TIME DISTORTION—noun: originally a hypnosis term referring to a subject's loss
of awareness of how much time is passing, it also refers to the pickup technique of
making a woman feel she has known a pickup artist longer than she really has. Ex-
amples of time distortion include taking a woman to several different places over
the course of a night or having a woman imagine future events and adventures to-
gether. Also: future pacing or future events projection.
TRANCE WORDS—noun: the words a person emphasizes or repeats when
speaking, indicating that they have a special meaning to the speaker. Once a
pickup artist knows a woman's trance words, he may use those words in con-
versation to make her feel a sense of understanding and connection with him.
Origin: Richard Bandler and John Grinder.
TRIANGULAR GAZING—verb: a technique used directly before attempting to
kiss a woman, in which, while making eye contact, a man takes several short,
suggestive glances at her lips.
WBAFC—noun [way-below average frustrated chump]: a man who is extremely
unsuccessful with women, usually due to awkwardness, nervousness, and lack
of experience.
WING—noun: a male friend, generally with some pickup knowledge, who assists
one in meeting, attracting, or taking home a woman. A wing can help by keep-
ing a woman's friends occupied while the pickup artist talks to her, or by talk-
ing to the woman directly about the pickup artist's positive traits. Also:
wingman.
WINGWOMAN—noun: see pivot.
WOOD—noun: useless; a waste of paper; generally used to describe a woman's
phone number when she gives it to a pickup artist freely but is unlikely to call
him back when he phones.
YES-LADDER—noun: a persuasion technique in which a person is asked a se-
ries of basic questions designed to elicit positive answers, increasing the likeli-
hood that the person will also respond in the affirmative to a final, open-ended
question. For example: "Are you spontaneous? Are you adventurous? Would
you like to play a game called the cube?"
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