Well I spent since last christmas to now trying to get this girl. I'm 30 shes 20, we r in college together, yes I went back. To cut a long story short I made some huge mistakes and as a result have ended up in the friends zone but worse, she knows I fancy her. I'd say my main failure over the period was letting my heart get the better of me in making decisions. Patience it seems is key.
Can I ask, is there any way back after rejection? A kind of revalidation?


Major things that happened
1: texted her while drunk repeatedly last christmas at 6am. she's single. Dec.
2: gave her a valentines card and flowers (lost validation?) she's back with ex. Feb.
3: apologised for this after hearing dodgy info from her friends. she's with ex still.April.
4: texted her lots with good friendly banter. she's broken up and single.May.
5: texted her asking her to the zoo, she says yes, then the day before asks me if it is a date, and says 'I don't want to do anything with anyone at the moment, but would like to be friends'. Doesnt come to the zoo. Single. June.

I'm thinking she is messed up after her break up? Or has no romantic interest in this AFC. Any advice on it? What game do I need to work on? Forget about her?
Do I sound frustrated?!!!

Matt
Ps. just want to point out the age thing she is very mature and her ex is 31.

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Hey Matt,

As you can see, I'm pretty new to the forums too but I don't lack experience when it comes this kind of situations. First off, your in school! why are you being so patient and 'wasting' your time with just one girl?!? I'm in university and I'm sure there are hundreds of girls that are single just like you. From what I've read in your post, it seems like you know what you've done wrong in the past... so why not move on and use your knew knowledge on another young hot babe?!?

Sorry if I come off as being too blunt to the situation, but reading your post just reminded of me.. the old me (minus drunk texts ). All I have to say is time is valuable, and it should not be wasted on just one chick.

From my past experience, if you start socializing with other girls at school she might see new light and come to. But seriously..... change it up, move on.

PS. some more information on the exBF might help if other PUA's want to comment on the subject, maybe BF buster? Also, is her ex also in school?


YES, you sound FRUSTRATED. Typical AFC.

good luck,

mrChestnut, out.

never apologize!! you need to re-read style's book

the best response to the lets just be friends would of been "Friends dont put themselves into boxes like that, i can only promise we wont do anything unless we are both ready willing and completely happy about it"

never apologize!! rules 1+2

Thanks for the replies gentlemen.
Its true time is so valuable especially at my age when things seem to be dwindling faster than ever, to get hung up for months and months on one chick. Worst thing is it affects everything, you just can't get it out of your head. But I'm starting to realise its all a result of desperation, or lack of self esteem, lack of value placed upon myself. Hopefully I can work on these things over the next few months with the help of the forum.
Whats a BF buster? Well her ex drinks at the same bar she works in, so it must be hard for her to get him out of her head.
What I couldn't understand was why she agreed to come to the zoo with me then all of a sudden ask me was it a date , and then pull out. We live miles and miles away from eachother, its not as if it was a casual hang out type thing. Unless she was testing what it would be like just me and her doing something, but then thought I was after too much from it. Impossible to tell really.

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