Hey folks:

I'm new here. I'm married, and my wife and I recently decided to try having an open marriage. As we've gotten into it, I've discovered that it's very easy for a married woman to find a boy-toy willing to fuck her. It's a little harder for a married man to find a girl-toy willing to fuck him. Shock, shock, right?

I realized I've got two strikes against me: 1) I'm married, and 2) I've never really been a PUA before (always been "a nice guy"...time to change this shit my friends!)

I do have a few things going for me: 1) I'm a fairly attractive guy (young-looking boyish face and quite fit for a 42 yr old), 2) I meet women fairly easily (a few sticking points, but I'll work on it), 3) I'm a musician (bassist, drummer, singer, songwriter...some appeal there for lots of ladies I think), and 4) I love to talk and converse.

I picked up "The Game" and started reading it. I like it. I want to learn more. I'm not finished with the book yet, but I've tried some of the things mentioned in it, and damn...it seems to work most of the time. I've collected quite a few phone numbers that I probably wouldn't have otherwise.

So, I think for me it'll come down to technique and boldness. My goal is find two semi-regular girl-toys who are at least bi-curious...if we're going to have an open marriage, I want to live out the fantasy of having a threesome with two women at least once (and darn, it might take a couple or three times to get everything smooth, ya know?).

If any other fellows are in an open marriage and have techniques specific to that, I'd love to hear it. I'll probably be spending quite a bit of time on this forum as I get my "game" together.

Cheers!
Gruuve

OK...status change here, so let me re-introduce myself. I'm newly separated. My wife and I's "open marriage" has gone completely awry, but really the reasons for separating go beyond just the "open marriage" attempt. I won't go into all the gory details, except to say this: she has really low self-esteem (always has) and I can see where that's been a huge factor...women with LSE will do or say almost anything to be "validated" without considering the harm they may do to someone else. I'll leave it at that.

So, you'll be seeing a lot of me around this forum in all likelihood...I've got a lot to learn.

Gruuve

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Divorced dude having a good life.

Gruuve, as a like aged divorced man, let me assure you that you will be better off than she will in the long run. Feel free to PM me with personal questions.

First thiong you need to do is determine what you want. List things that your woman, whomever she turns out to be, to have as qualities.

For me, she has to be shapely. She has to be disease-free. She has to be submissive to my leading. She has to love to smile, live to laugh, and never be mean to anyone. She has to love football, and whatever team is her favorite, she has to genuinely want my team to win, except when her team is playing mine, then she just has to dress up as a team cheerleader.

She has to love hockey.

She has to love to fuck.

She will forsake all others for me.

And, one more thing...she cannot bitch, ever. If she does not like the situation, she can find the door. If she can't, I'll show her to it.

Oh, and she cannot try to change me. I am who God has made me to be. She doesn't get His place of authority in my life.



Once you determine what you want, start looking for her. Your wife may get out in the real world and find it to be so scary that she realizes what she lost in you. If she wants you back, give her the list. Let her decide if she wants to meet every criteria you have. If she doesnn't, let her know you'll keep looking.

If she agrees to them all, tell her you will date her, along with the rest of your girlfriends. If she proves to be the one who meets all your criteria, then you will consider it. Let her know the decision won't be overnight.

She will most likely balk at that kind of proposition. And, that is ok. If she doesn't want to be the woman you want, then she can go find someone she meets the criteria of. You'll be busy finding the right woman for you.

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