I've always known that things weren't good, but I assumed they would get better before they got worse. Today I realized just how bad my approach anxiety truly is.

I go to the mall quite a lot and I always say it would be the best place to try and pick up, but I never approach. I identified the problem (approach anxiety) and set out to fix it.

So today I went to the mall and gave my wing $200, and told him to give me $20 every time I approached. I thought this was a sure-fire way to approach 10 sets. Instead, I just lost $180.

It occurs to me now that I have some SERIOUS work to do.

I'm 22, life is good in all aspects except this one. I'm good looking, I dress well, I'm funny, I go out a lot, I'm actually really good at interacting with girls once I get past the awkward ice-breaking part of it all.

The big issue is that I rely on alcohol a lot to remove the anxiety of interacting with girls. When I'm sober I am hopeless. Maybe it's ironic that Approach Anxiety and Alcoholics Anonymous have the same initials... I'm not saying that I have a problem with alcohol, I'm just saying that I do 95% of my approaching when I'm drinking.

I see sets and think about approaching but then I just automatically walk in another direction and avoid any potential interaction. It sucks.

I never thought I would join these forums, let alone post on them, but I feel like I have hit rock bottom with approach anxiety.

I know that I'd rather get shot down 10 times than not approach once, but for some reason I just get this ridiculous urge to walk the other way.

Admitting is the first step to recovery.
Start doing weird stuff in public. Get over the anxeity.

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nice zooooo i think you can be better after breaking the ice just try it and learn from your mistakes and experience..i like the 200 bucks trick....rAFC/afc should try that too

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