Well guys, I'm Adi, I'm from Israel, the first time my friend told me about the book "the game" and the pickup artists in general I said..."Yeah, sure, whatever..." I didn't believe it and I thought I could get girls the way I always did (...twice)

I'm only 18 but also had only 2 girls franched and only one i slept with. The problem with tat is that those two were close friends of mine who liked my shyness/ absurd niceness and eventually wanted me.

Now I just started going to clubs and I realized how awefully shy and insecure I am with girls, I hang out with two good looking naturals and the girls they get 99 % of the time ask them, "why is that guy so quiet?"

I am not really a nerd, I'm into sports and I do go to the gym but wait...yeah i think i'm a nerd personality wise anyways.. I'm okay looking, I've been asked out 5 times but was sometimes stupid to reply, "i think we should be friends" because I didn't want to ruin what we had or something like that, no clue why I said that by the way...

Anyways, today after I went to a club where I was too afraid to talk to anyone even after reading some stuff on this website and the book, I figured out I do need help.

So hi people, I'll attempt my best to learn from the best and like style, to develop into a happier and more social person in the process, even though I don't expect to become even remotely close to being a good PUA but at least to becoming someone..

Hi Adi,

No one expects to become a good PUA right off, but what you did recognize is that you want to become "someone" - thats awesome, thats an amazing first step! But lets break that down just a little more -

Become someone - yourself, not someone else you know

You cant expect to become one of your natural friends, but you can expect to learn to peel away the layers of insecurities (that are self inflicted by the way, you're the only one pulling the blankets of doubt over yourself, other people arent projecting those insecurities on to you).

Start small, make a list of things that make you uncomfortable, and then next to it write why... pick the ones that seem the silliest when you read them back - and forget them, you're not insecure about those things anymore - remove the easy layers first.

Then take a look at the rest of the list... how much is left? Of those things, how many are repeats? ie. "Im uncomfortable with my body" is the same as "girls dont like me cause im skinny" and "I want more muscle"... are all just one "problem" not 3 seperate issues.

So now you should be down to one or two things - that are really bugging you, and WHY.

Change them... or find another way of looking at it... a gap in your teeth can be seen as unsightly, or as stand out and charming as dimples, its all in the way you present it. How are you presenting your insecurities?

... just a start

You're asking for help, you're doing the right thing - I applaud your bravery!

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