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| dipankarrai2002@gmail.com | PostPosted: Fri Oct 31, 2008 5:43 am | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Wed Oct 29, 2008 7:27 pm Posts: 1 | | so tonight i went to a club and again the same thing happened as always.I sat there with my friend in the corner of a club talking to him looking at all the amazing beautiful women and wishing to be with one of them. I am not an ugly looking bloke who has no game. I just finished reading The Game and i still didnot have the courage to talk to any one of the women. 25 years of my life has been wasted sitting around the corner sipping beer and looking!!! I really need help...anyone.....I need advice on how to take the first step buti just dont seel to know how.....
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| Plethora | PostPosted: Fri Oct 31, 2008 7:39 am | |
Joined: Tue Sep 23, 2008 3:42 am Posts: 625 Location: Vancouver | | There are a lot of NLP and anchoring techniques that can greatly help reduce your AA, you should look into it (even just type 'approach anxiety' into youtube).
I want you to realize where this emotion of incredible nervousness comes from. We are not wired to live in a society where there are many thousands of suitable mates in close proximity. We are wired to having only a couple to choose from within the tribe of about 50 or so people. This means that if you fuck up, then you could possibly have no chance of reproducing ever. Also, if you approached the wrong woman it was very possible that you would be physically beat or chastised out of the group. In the same way that you get vertigo when up high, you get this massive anxiety because your brain is looking after you.
In todays society, as it comes to meeting women, your brain is not looking after you. Your brain is fucking you over. If you have familiarized yourself with game then you should have some level of competence in talking to women. You KNOW that you are at least as interesting as all those guys you see in the bar, and your value is at least as high. You ARE worthy to talk to beautiful women, heck, they WANT you to talk to them.
You don't need the routines and tricks to be successful. You know what not to do, and that is enough for now. Imagine approaching women in the same way you imagine going swimming in freezing cold water. If you stand there torturing yourself over and over, trying to work up the courage, then you are making yourself more anxious and the experience is just miserable. Use the 3 second rule, jump in. _________________ There are no failures, only feedback.
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| manman | PostPosted: Sat Nov 01, 2008 10:38 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Addict | Joined: Sat Nov 01, 2008 10:19 pm Posts: 249 | | dONT WORRY MAN, WE'VE ALL BEEN THERE. obviously, you walk in the club, feel very awkward, dont talk to anybody, feel like shit, and you leave. OK heres what you need to do. Start off by finding an opener, preferrably not an opinion opener because women are starting to recognize them. heres an ex of a good one "hey, do you like to be approached directly or indirectly?" open 10-12 sets a day for 4 days a week. You dont have to say anything after the opener, maby ask why or whatever. You will notice yourself coming together. (with women). This is ultimately the first step in becoming a pua. BODY LANGUAGE is crucial to opening sets. If you screw that up, you lose your set, to maby a "fuck off, or "who the fuck are you?".. So get this down. And after your approaches get mastered, add the new pieces to the sets. like negs.. This is all Mystery's stuff so go check out his stuff.
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| Hatter | PostPosted: Sun Nov 02, 2008 3:22 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast | Joined: Tue Sep 09, 2008 11:12 pm Posts: 40 | | hey man, this is all good advice, but if you're like me you'll just need a kick up the ass. Where are you from my man? You need to meet up with someone and go out. If you're in London then I can help, or introduce you to people who can help, but definately, definately! get in touch with someone. Everyone's been there and not everyone's able to get started on their own. One thing I recomend is go out to somewhere, and don't go home untill you talk to a girl! then next night 2, then next 3! Give yourself rewards.. But it's always good to get in touch with people who can give you more personal advice _________________ "there is no ordinary life Wyatt, there's just life" Doc Holliday!
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| Shertwire | PostPosted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 3:48 am | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Thu Nov 06, 2008 1:23 am Posts: 20 Location: Vancouver, BC | | wow, what plethora said is deep
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