| Read David D stuff in high school; had lots of attention from girls because I starred in all the musicals/theater and was a varsity sports captain, but was completely socially oblivious and didn't really do anything. Was very nervous around girls in high school thanks to having switched from co-ed schooling to private all-boys just as I hit puberty... probably not the best idea.
Early in college, started coming out of that shell, but blew countless opportunities for kiss-closes and sex because of nervousness, uncertainty that the girl wanted it, fear of rejection, lack of self confidence/esteem. Catholic high school succeeded in stunting my comfort with intimacy. Nevertheless, got places, but basically turned down situations handed to me on a silver platter.
Finally, while studying abroad in Denmark, lost my v card to a HB7.5 I met in a bathroom after several nights of getting closer and closer to something happening. Didn't call her back for ages because I bugged out, but when we did start hanging out again, I realized that not only had I hurt her, but I had passed up on weeks of sex.
Now, back in Boston, I just read "the Game" and I'm ready to kick my game up a notch. I'm comfortable with meeting girls and ok at getting to hang out, but any escalation is like it's beyond me. That's what I need to work on, and I feel like I'm going to get there by grinding though a high volume of girls until I finally break the nervousness, uncertainty, and sticking point, and can comfortably, confidently, and successfully phase shift to kiss-closing and more.
Last week, I set out the goal of meeting three girls a day... if I kept that up, I'd have met half the undergraduate female population of my school. I was actually doing this, but realized as soon as I started setting up dates that the only way it could work would be if I made it a full-time job. Unfortunately, I can't do that. This semester I do want to make some dramatic improvements.
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