Everyone in here has or should have enough prior knowledge to know about the mantra: GFTOW

Go Fuck (or Find) Ten Other Women.

It is VERY clear to me that there is MAJOR hesitation to submit to this ideology. I write a decent amount on the forums, and I make myself available for chat help and even extend my facebook as a means to contact me for help with this thing we call "Game," and over the years I have realized that the concept of what makes men attractive just isn't grasped at all. People come in here and think they need a quick fix and that they just need one thing and everything else will just fall into place. They're right! But that one thing, is GFTOW.

See, women have choice. The average girl can throw on some makeup and a hot dress and get hit on all night. The average guy throws on his best gear and gawks at women, going home alone 99% of the time, never getting approached by anyone. Women live in a different reality, naturally. But there are some men that grew up living in that same reality; they can pick through the many women that are attracted to them, and if they don't like one they can GFTOW.

Most newbies and even veteran rAFCs never make it to that next level of thinking. They just get one girl to like them that passes the initial qualifications and think, "This is it. She is the best thing that will ever come along." They take their guard down too early, and ride out up to 3 year long relationships (sometimes longer) only to come back on the forum asking how to get the girl back. The answer is and always will be GFTOW.

It was the answer before the relationship. It will be the answer when the relationship rides out its course into oblivion. GFTOW

When you meet a girl and get her number. Don't call her back. GFTOW.

When you k-close. GFTOW

When you find that "oh so important" initial connection that "means everything." GFTOW

When you take a girl home and f-close her. GFTOW.

If you follow this advice, you'd be in the woman's dating reality by now. You'd have 100 girls as options and not just one. Out of those 100 maybe ten have some dating potential. There are only 7 days in the week. Now you don't even have time to date them all during the days you're not out meeting new women or doing SOMETHING PRODUCTIVE for your own sake.

Stop calling women. Go Find Ten.

Stop texting the next day to say how wonderful it was to meet them. Go Find Ten.

Stop liking every attention seeking picture on her facebook just like every other chode. Go Find ten.

Build up the abundance. The abundance will secure the foundation of your new reality. Your new reality will snowball you into a big swinging wrecking ball of dick.

Be patient. Go for the f-close and don't worry about anything else for a while. If you are out with friends and you don't see the set going anywhere, n-close and GTFO so you can GFTO. The more time you give to a stranger the less valuable your time becomes. Your time becomes more valuable when you have more choices, and it becomes more special to the ones that you give it to. Give more of your time to yourself than your friends. Give more time to your friends than to strange women. Give more time to the strange women that want it than to the ones that don't chase you. Give no time to the ones that don't chase you. GFTOW

Stop being the addict. The addict wants a quick fix. When that fix doesn't fill the void anymore the addict needs something different. Be the independent. Be the man that doesn't give a shit if he ever sees some hoe at the bar who just slobbed on your strange man dick. GFTOW

Stop placing importance on things that don't matter. Figure out what does matter and keep that around. If you don't have 100 phone numbers to call that you never called, then you aren't in the reality of the women you are trying to get. Get on their level. GFTOW.

This is not a joke. So much time and energy from mentors in the community goes to helping people grasp this overlooked concept. So many men are hurting today because some girl they don't even know, has been given for no reason, the power to validate manhood. It's bullshit. Being a man does not mean that many women want you. Being wanted by women is a RESULT of being secure with your masculinity, and with your personal being.

Everyone knows what a crackhead looks like, and there are still more and more crackheads. People that end up in failed destinations focus too much on the destination and not enough on the road that takes them there. Before the crackhead needed crack for that fix, he did seemingly harmless things that lead him to that point. Quit being a crackhead slave to women. Get on the road of GFTOW to the destination of abundance in the land of decision. Get out of the land of neediness and self-doubt.

You have the answer. It's right in front of you. It's GFTOW.

You can learn approach anxiety solutions. You can learn kino escalation and qualifying. You can learn comfort, rapport, attraction, sexual state, and club game. All these things are just breakdowns of interactive dynamic. They are fundamentals that you can learn anyway through experience that is prevalent with abundance.

I'm gonna be honest. Day2s are harder to get than an f-close. A girl will go home with a random stranger in the heat of the moment that night more often than a Day2. She has choices on the Day2. She might regret it the next day. Be that girl. It's better to be that girl than to be the guy she ignores or flakes out on.

WOMEN WILL STOP FLAKING OUT ON YOU ONCE YOUR TIME BECOMES A PRIVILEGE! IT CAN'T BE A PRIVILEGE IF YOU RELY ON HER TO MAKE YOUR TIME VALUABLE!

Your time has value already. It should mean something whether or not you are on a date. If it doesn't then find something that is self-fulfilling. Pick up a hobby. Maybe pick-up is your hobby. Maybe you can use that time to get into better shape. Do it for yourself. Do it to make yourself more valuable at work. Do it because it makes you feel better. Do it because it makes you a better role model for your future kids, and gives you a better quality of life. Save the women thing for a side-result and stop focusing so much on them.

Stop being a slave to every text she sends. Stop calling girls you just met telling them how special it was to meet them. It's not that special. You just haven't met enough women. It only seems special when that's all you have. Someone with a choice (AKA an average girl) doesn't want the pressure of being so important to someone else so soon. It's easier for them to Go Find Ten.

So before you come on to the forums asking about the girls flaking on you. Before you ask how to keep your text fluff going when you have no direction in the first place. Before you put any effort into a Day2 so you can get laid, when its really just easier to F-close on the same night with some other girl, ask yourself this: If I had this with TEN OTHER WOMEN, how important would this one be? And the answer is not at all.

GFTOW

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Excellent post!

Here is a video covering a lot of that point:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YNovswAlmio[/youtube]

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Excellent post! I hope many read this, because since I got the GFTOW mindset my game totally changed.

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Wicked post! Even just believing I'm going to GFTOW completely changes my mindset about girls I'm starting to get hung up on.

Nice one

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Amazing Post!

If you think you can't live without her, she will certainly prove you wrong!

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Good shit.

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You know, I think it's time for me to become an adult and have a serious discussion with myself. I have been in this forum and community for nearly 3 years, and have very little to show for it. I mean, I've had a few near f-closes, but have yet to actually f-close. I think one of the hardest things for me to accept is the abundance mindset and letting things go. I'm characteristically known by my friends and family as a stubborn bastard who holds grudges.

These words, not the author, pisses me off for whatever reason. I know they are true words, but my heart can't really accept them for whatever reason. I've become successful in other areas of my life, but not this one. A few years ago I didn't have a car, a job, a degree, or a path in life. All of these things have happened, but not this one. I'm starting to think that I might not be emotionally mature enough to deal with women, sex, or love yet. Something won't let me succeed, but something else won't let me quit.

I think I need to look into seriously getting a life coach and maybe a counselor to help me sort through some of this emotional baggage.

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Alright, carry on with normal conversation.

Dicklow, that's why I personally tell myself Go FIND Ten other women. I don't want to fuck every woman or use women just for sex, and I am one to fall hard for a girl. I took the GFTOW mantra and used it to get past every hurdle I had in game.

I used to go out and get numbers and then call all of those girls who would later flake me. Now I realize that I don't actually want to spend individual time with most of the girls I meet, because I only have so much time to spend. Now I would rather go on a friend date with a chick than date some strange girl who hasn't proven herself to me in anyway.

Most guys want to pull the one girl at a bar and then figure out how to make that girl your girlfriend. This will always end in tragedy, as these men are not ready to handle the stresses of a monogamous relationship.

How can a man deal with having a desired woman if he is not equally desired, having the same abundance mindset as the woman? How can a man who has only "picked up" one girl ever get a sense of what is really special?

Think of it like shopping, but you can only buy one thing, whatever it is. You're looking for the right pair of shoes. You have to wear these shoes for a long time. You want the shoes to look good, but if you don't try them on you might end up with shoes that don't fit well. Women are the same way. You have to take your time getting to see how they fit for you, so you don't end up with a girl who doesn't fit well for you despite the intitial attraction and chemistry. It's like the perfect looking shoe that is just totally uncomfortable after a few weeks, but you already picked that shoe so you stick with it because you're like "so what these are awesome." But how awesome are they if they make you sacrifice yourself to wear them, after you've made the investment? How awesome is the girl if she wants to grow her children in a different way, or live in a different place with a different lifestyle?

For most men, they only have a few shoes as options, and take whatever one comes in their size. They meet a dozen girls and end up with the first one that makes time for them. But they can have many girls making time for them, and pick through those to find their best match without emotional attachment, IF they back off from the attachment once they have it, through GF(ind)TOW

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I know this is just, I just have a hard time accepting it. I guess I'm just really frustrated. It's like one of those things where you know you have to do it, but you're pissed about doing it. It makes you feel like punching the fuck outta someone, even though you know it needs to be done. It's the same situation for me here. I have no excuses, it's just a tough pill that needs to be swallowed. I can't do it now, or I'll approach women and be pissed at them, and I don't see how productive that would be. For now, I'll just look into getting a life coach (not a therapist), and start to get some concrete routines down.

GFTOW gives you a mindset of low neediness, since you know that you can get 10 other women for just that one. Hell, I've got a girlfriend right now, and the GFTOW mindset really gives me a low level of neediness for her.

The one problem though that GFTOW gives once you have it, is that you become your own enemy. With every girl you see that is attractive, you want to pick her up. But once your in a commited relationship, you can't pick her up, because if you go too far you're just cheating on your GF.

GFTOW is good for starters, but beware of the consequences that you might become your own enemy.

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This is why I take time to get to know the girl. Right now there is a girl I go out with like once a month for the past 7 months. We hang out a bit, I pickup girls while she wings my wings, and then I tell her about the numbers I pulled on the way back to her place where we hook up.

Any numbers I pull while I'm with her I don't call. I keep it somewhat respectful. I enjoy pickup. Any girl with me is gonna have to deal with it.

Don't sacrifice your self for someone else. Don't fall too quickly in love. Make sure whatever you have is something that actually works out logically, and through spending more time frequently after months of infrequency, you will get attached and fall in love in a more healthy way.

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Good stuff, I like it.

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