So I came up with a new game for first dates the other day which you can read about here first-date-activity-dare-game-vt55752.html so I number closed this HB8 at college last thursday and told her we should go out saturday night. She said yes but had to cancel saturday to babysit for her sister (I was skeptical at first but it turned out to be true so thats fine) we rescheduled for sunday night. (I invented the game around HB8 because she wasn't being very helpful at divulging what she liked doing for fun and she said "Surprise me" so I did."

Sunday comes and an HB7 I number closed on Saturday morning txt's me and asks if I want to go for drink sunday at 4 when she finishes work. I agree but tell her I'm busy from 6:30 onwards. I meet HB7 who becomes HB4 because of how boring she was. I spend the time with her up until 6:30 to give her a chance but she failed epicly.

6:30 comes and I pick up HB8 I hand her the 4 envelopes with question marks on them and pieces of card inside them each with an activity and 5 challenges to be completed during the night each. To choose who had to complete the challenge we rolled dice or flipped a coin.

Challenge 1: "Wear an embarrassing piece of clothing or item/prop while at the out for the night chosen by your date from the props bag"

Challenge 2: ""Wear any piece of clothing that your date gives you from the outfit they are wearing."

Challenge 3: "Take a picture of yourself in your underwear in a public place at some point during the night"

Challenge 4: "Go and perform a magic trick to a stranger. No matter how good or bad it is and no matter how good or bad you are at doing magic"

Challenge 5: ""Think up an entertaining/embarassing nickname for the person your with and they have to introduce themselves to 3 strangers througout the night with that name."

She loved the idea behind the game and was very willing to play along which helped set the fun vibe I wanted during the night and would avoid any kind of boredom from ocurring and also set this date apart from any other she has had.

She ended up picking Cinema and dinner. She gets in my car and to keep with her excitement about the challenges I let her choose what challenge we did first. She chose Challenge 1. We rolled for it and I lost. She picked out a ridiculous furry hat for me to wear and I happily put it on and told her "Yeah I look far sexier in this than you would" which she laughed at and hit my arm.

We end up at the cinema and get tickets to see the film 2012 (which was pretty cool. Kinda predictable but enjoyable.) we take our seats and at first we're just joking and smiling and both sitting somewhat static and for a moment it felt quite akward but I decided not to be an AFC about it so I leaned in whispered in her ear "You smell amazing, what perfume are you wearing?" she smiled and blushed slightly and told me the brand of perfume it was I then just put my arm round her and held her hand and she cuddled right in.

During the film I wanted to kiss her but we both seemed to be enjoying the movie so I didn't at that point. After the film finished we walked out and across the street to the restaurant that I had made reservations at (I'd made reservations at multiple restaurants that night depending on which envelope she chose). We walked in and it was just me HB8 and two other girls in the restaurant. We take are seats and I take her hand look into her eyes and tell her "I wanted to do this throughout the entire film" and I kiss her then pull away and say "but I was enjoying the film to much". She smiled and we had dinner. We kissed a couple more times and then when I felt the conversation die a little I told her we should do the next challenge she chose Challenge 2 we rolled again and I lost again and ended up wearing her very tight denim jacket. At desert she chose Challenge 4 we rolled again and I lost so had to perform a magic trick (I performed magic at weddings and parties for a living a few years ago so that was easy). We decided to leave Challenge 5 since there was like no one to introduce ourselves to.

We leave the restaurant and get in the car and I start driving her home. We get to her house and we start kissing again in the car for quite a while. I start kissing her neck and working on her ears and begin moving my hand down her arm to her leg along the outside of her thigh and then along the inside. At this point we'd been making out for about 10 minutes and I met some LMR when I moved my hand along the inside of her thigh which I think is where I made my mistake since I had been talking to Slywalker about creating tension and me just rushing in like that probably didn't achieve that. We kissed she said "I had a really great night. I'll see you at college." I remind her that we still have Challenge 3. She says "Oh yeah. Well since theres no point doing this one this late at night cause the chance we'll get caught is unlikely we should do it at college." I agree and this time we flip a coin for it. She chooses tails I get heads I flip the coin and it lands on tails. So I'm taking a picture of me in my underwear at college some point this week.

Anyway this was the first time I've ever taken a girl out on a date she loved the game I came up with and said it was really unique and it served its purpose and there wasn't any long gaps in conversation, we always had something to do, I read most of the IOI's correctly and managed to Kiss close and will hopefully take her out sometime soon. HB8 became HB9 at the end of the night for me since she was so much fun.

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Great FR man...I really like the Date Routine you created. I havent been on real date either before, so I might have to steal it when the time comes, which is hopefully soon! haha

Awesome!

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Well I posted it so that others can take it use it and improve it so go ahead. It was a pretty fun night just gotta work on a better day 2 to try and close.

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Thanks! Next time I got a similar date I'll def do that cards game too, sounds really cool.

Maybe you pushed too much in the end. Push 'n pull aye!

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Yeah I think I did lol. Just something I gotta take on the chin this time and learn and apply for next time

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This was great. I have a question though: When you called her to setup the date, what did you say you were doing? How did u set it up?

very nice work, and a very good FR IMHO, I will have to steal this from you, I think when I do it I will make the challenges be for both of us but other then that I think this was a great idea

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I text her telling her we should go out saturday night and on friday at college I tried getting ideas from her on what she wanted to do. She said "Surprise me" so when I came up with the idea and she asked where we were going and what we were doing I said "It's a surprise". She was fine with this since I'd built up enough comfort and rapport while at college that she was happy to trust me. If she had insisted on knowing I'd of just said "I thought you were an adventurous person plus I thought you liked surprises". This would of worked because of the way this girl is. I'm not sure this would work with every girl, you just got to judge it I think.

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Great field report, and yeah you pushed it a bit too much in the car. But good you let her go when she wanted and didn't start to insist.

One thing I'm wondering about tho, did you paid for the restaurant or did you split? How did you manage that? She offered to pay with u or..?

I love the date idea! Very good way of approaching her "surprise me" challenge. As for the car, it may not have been that bad of you to go for the leg. Maybe a bit too quick but:

1. You actually went for it, which is good cause you now know where she stands as of now and you wont be thinking about "what if".

2. She'll be thinking about it, and since you understood that she was uncomfortable at the moment, she'll be thinking about it in a positive way rather than "Oh, he's a creep" or "He doesn't care about how comfortable I am with him".

All in all, I'm impressed. I also love that you judge girls not only based on how they look but how they act too. I give you a lot of respect for that man. Keep it up! Oh, and make sure to post any new info on this girl, I'd like to see how it goes for you.

Glitch

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lol she doesn't eat any kind of animals (kinda hippie sort) so she just had a salad for main course and a sorbet for desert so it was really cheap so I thought I'd pick up the bill for the whole meal. She went to get money out when the waitress came back with the bill and I just said I'd pay with it on my card and she offered me the money and I was just like "You had a salad and a sorbet I'll get this one." she replied with "Yeah but I dont want you to feel like you have to pay" and I just said to her "Well I'll get this one and you can get the next one, or you can just cook me dinner at yours one night" (setting up for another date). She was pretty happy with this idea.

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Thanks for the feedback. Yeah I don't think judging a girl on her looks is good enough for me just cause if I'm gonna spend some time with her I want to get on with her to.

As for how its going with this girl, after our first date we spoke a lot on msn and found out a lot about her and when I saw her at college we spoke a bit and I offered her a lift home and we made out in the car for ages. Two days after that we had like a spontaneous date after college at the cinema which went ok til she started throwing me shit tests that began to get really annoying so I tried to just get her out the car asap before I fucked up lol. (I got the tickets for the cinema she paid about £10-£15 on arcade games we played against each other and food/juice etc which was cool.)

A couple of days before Date 3 she suggested we go away for the weekend to her aunts farm (Which I liked the sound of) and the suggestion went along the lines of this:

HER: It would be pretty cool if we went away for the weekend to my aunts farm, we could walk the dogs and feed the animals and stuff
HER: I can promise not to seduce you either
ME: Well with the promise of farm animals and you not seducing me how can I say no. I can't promise the same by the way
HER: I'll have to get one of the geese lol (Joke between us about how I was attacked by a goose when I was 5 lol)
ME: It wouldn't stop me
HER: Good

Our third date was ok it was a bit rushed because she had an essay to do for the next day and when I asked her if she wanted to cancel and go another day she said that she wanted to come out. I didnt play the game with her this time but didnt tell her exactly where we were going just to keep the surprise theme going. I found a restaurant that did a ghost tour as well which she really enjoyed (Her favourite day of the year is halloween and she loves stories and horror movies so I thought she'd enjoy.) On the way there we agreed to try go away to her aunts farm the following weekend which she agreed to.

After that (thursday) we didnt speak again til Sunday night because she was away for the weekend and I was out. On the sunday we spoke on msn and she was being pretty withdrawn because she had the cold and a throat infection which she blamed me for cause it was raining on the thursday night and we were out for an hour in the bad weather I playfully told her I wasn't accepting responsibility for it and she insisted it was my fault and I told her no it wasnt she then didnt speak for a couple of minutes and I said "Guess I'm the last person you want to speak to then" and she waited a little while and said "I'll get better" (which I took as a good sign). I then asked her if we were still on for going away next friday and I'm getting some slight resistance (might of been cause she wasn't feeling well. Dunno)

ME: We still on for going away friday if your feeling better?
HER: Not sure yet I've not even asked my aunt if I can come down yet
ME: Well thats on your to do list when you get better
HER: I have so much on my to do list it's unreal
ME: Well no rush one thing at a time. If we can't go down I've got something else planned that wont involve you getting the cold either.


we chat for a bit more and I decided not to bring it up again cause she obviously wasn't up for talking about it and I didn't want to seem like I was pushing her. Next time we speak I might bring it back up just not sure how to do it without sounding needy or as if im pushing her. I like the sound of going away with her since we've not slept with each other yet even though we've been seeing each other for three weeks the three times i've taken her out are the only three times I've seen her since we're both at college different days usually and if we see each other there its only briefly. We both have a lot of college work to do plus different social circles and I go out a lot more now since finding this site. Also we both live with our parents Im at home with my mum and little brother and the house is usually occupied and she's at home with her mum looking after her cause she's pretty sick. She told me for the first time what is wrong with her mum which shows she's starting to trust me a bit more. I quite like hanging out with this girl to since she's quite a lot of fun even though we dont like a lot of the same things.

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It sounds like you like this girl which is definitely a good thing. And it's a really good sign that she's starting to trust you more. For one thing, that will help u get further with her. But on top of that, it will help her be more comfortable around you and she'll be much more willing to go to her Aunt's farm for instance. As for her being sick and trying to get away with her for the weekend, you had the right response. Basically letting her know that you understand and not making a big deal about it happening or not. Let her want to go away with you rather than pushing her until she agrees. You don't really have to bring it up directly, you can say something like,"How's that to-do list coming along?" Just basically keep up what your doing, a little push/pull, cocky funny and you'll be waking up next to her on the farm in no time haha. Oh and btw, since you guys seem to MSN a lot and you don't get much of a chance to talk in person, you should check out this post if you haven't yet. It's just a bunch of cute things to say over text or online, I've found it pretty helpful even just for starting a conversation in a funny way.

list-of-text-messages-game-vt21175.html

Lemme know if any of this helps. Good luck man!

Glitch

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Thanks for the link glitch I looked at it and Im def going to use something like this on her when opening online next time.

I decided that next time when I signed onto msn and she was online I wasn't going to initiate conversation with her since she was being somewhat reserved and a little cold last time and that me constantly just talking to her first would seem somewhat needy so I decided to sign in and just wait until she initated conversation with me. That way I was sure that she wanted to speak to me and wasn't sitting at her computer thinking "I can't be bothered speaking to him, but it would be rude to say so etc." So I signed on and it was about an hour before she started the conversation but I didn't mind since the conversation starts with me knowing she wants to talk to me.

I took your advice glitch and we spoke about what we'd been up to how we were etc and halfway through the convo I asked her

ME: "So hows that to do list?"
HER: I just keep adding to it
ME: lol thats life
HER: Yeah it seems to be for me just now
ME: Well if we can't make it down to your aunts farm this weekend we should go out anyway
HER: yeah if you want
ME: lol well since I'm suggesting we do something this weekend yeah I want to
HER: cool
ME: So what are the chances we'll get to go to your aunts farm this weekend? Just so I know so that I can think of something else for us to do thats just as fun.
HER: Well I'm going to phone my aunt tomorrow and see if she can have us. How come it's always you that gets to decide what we do?
ME: lol cause you never take the initiative
HER: Well you never give me the chance
Me: Well I came up with what we did the first time we went out and last week. Your aunts farm was your idea so if we cant go there you can decide what we do this weekend
HER: Sounds good

After this convo we just talked a bit more so it seemed to go a bit better than last time and even if we can't go away this weekend I've already secured a place to close (my mates summer house is free) so if she has an idea for our weekend we can go out and I can close there and getting her there shouldn't be to difficult.

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