Thanks for taking the time to put thought into my thread and reply, I appreciate it.
• Know your niche - you have 2 types of girls you like, the fantasy girls (pornstars, Kate Upton etc) and you have type of girl that you have hooked up with in the past. For me, I tend to attract confident girls next door type of girls despite my type is Kate Upton.
So instead, look for those girls and increase your chances. A goth is more likely to get a solid phone from a goth girly. Arty girls probably like a more of a hipster Type of guy with a tattoo sleeve and beard. Know your niche.
This is a very good point. Thing is I dont really fall into any niche
I am mixed race, kinda athletic (or used to be) but definitely not a jock. I'm not a nerd, I'm not a gangster, not a biker etc.... I never fell into any category at school (but yeah I used to hang out with the gangster/trouble makers in school--- but I've wayy outgrown that by now)
I do find asian girls check me out a lot....but my ex was azn, so I want a different flavour.
btw how do you define 'confident girl next door'?
Look pretty - way too often I see his who are just plain joe approaching perfect 10's.They might get the odd sympathy phone number or even an insta date coffee if they are lucky. They still ain't hooking up with you. Starbucks is expensive. Go beyond the fundamentals, dress and style really well. Try to look sexier than your niched girls. Girls seem to like your 'personality' better when they ate already physically attracted to you. Go figure. Go beyond the fundamentals. Lift weights and get into shape, dress better than the average guy, get a cool hair cut. It's easy to be a little bit above average. Get it done. This should go without saying.
I got a nice undercut combover hair cut today....and have a half decent wardrobe.
Thing is when i am at work...I cant really dress too good b/c I food spilled on me (its a dirty job)...so I am not sure how to look good when I am flexing in that situation?
Thanks overall good advice