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OK. I'll try to keep it quick. We've been together for 2 years now. We went on a trip, a camping trip for 15 days, about a month ago. We had a blast even though we fought about lots of things, we really had a lot of fun. We are both 21 year olds. Im the first guy she's ever been with, I mean have sex, and serious relationship. She's been my first gf, but I've fooled around before meeting her.
So, back from the trip we took she went on a trip with her friends. And when she came back she told me I wasn't giving enough attention, that when we said goodbye before she took of I was on autopilot and didn't do anything.. She was kind of right, so I told her that OK, it won't happen again don't worry. But a few days ago we are at my place and we couldn't bang, because I'm too big for her sometimes. Dunno what's up with this btw, sometimes we handle just fine with some lube, sometimes we don't even need it, and other times even with lube she says it hurts so much. So this time she told me that she was afraid it would hurt again, that a week ago she had some bleeding going on. I told her it's fine, because last week we didn't have any lube, and now I've bought, so it would be ok. But she continued telling me that it's horrible for her, beeing so afraid. I told her that her mind plays a really importatn role, and if she thinks it's gonna be bad, ofc its gonna be bad.
There I told her that maybe we were not sexually compatible after all, and that it would never work, and we can't have a relationship without any sex, so maybe we should just break up, and find someone who fits with eachother. She then proceeded to break up into tears, so I told her that I went to far, that if we had been OK for 2 years, there is no reason to freak up for a couple of weeks it doesn't work.
After that, fast foward 2 hours and we have another fight, this time about something it's been going on for a while. She told me I didn't listen to her when she's talking, multiple times. Like when we are at the kitchen holding a cup of coffee, she-s telling me somthing and I head to the living room and she looks me all across the room like I walked out of the conversarion. Sorry for including so much detail, the point is, that I ain't pulling out my cellphone out to looking to the roof, she is beeing kind of a nitpick. So I told her that, and she said you're right maybe it's me, but I've been feeling not as good lately, not as good as when the relationship started. It's probable me, blabla bla, but I think that the things are wearing off in the relationship and I dont want them to, I love you so much.... So i'd rather take some time to get some clarity and think things trought than continue fighting and feeling like this. I told her OK that if she wanted some time she could have it, but that if she really needs space, I would not talk to her, text her, or anything such. 0 contanct. She lookek at me puzzled or shocked and said ok.
We hanged around for a bit then, had sex, it went well..kinda, had lunch and said goodbye
She also told me she had downloaded from her camera the photos from our trip, and I told her I wanted to see them so the next day she uploaded them. It's been two days, ofc I didnt replied to the photos, nor said anything to her, and I won't do in the forseeable future.
But in your opinion, what is going on?
Overthinking. All of it.
The fact you are even posting about this girl means you like her.
1. Focus on the moment and fun.
2. Stop the fucking Debbie Downer talks. Relationships are supposed to be light and fun, not serious.
3. Have more lube. How hard is this to do? Really? Bring a smaller vibrator into the bedroom if you have to. Make it crazy fun and easy.
4. Give her space.
You are the man. You are the leader. You lead with fun....stop the seriousness. You're young, so is she.