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Okiokdan
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 Posted: Tue Jan 22, 2008 1:35 pm Post subject: No initiative from girl. I've got to decide everything! |
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I've been seeing a girl for a few weeks right now. She's totally into me, but she doesn't take initiative as kissing, asking ME out etc.. I've been busting her balls about this but it doesn't seem to help.
I've been to the mall with her last weekend and we had the choice of going to a big ass one or a smaller one. I asked her which one she wanted. "I don't care:)" It's not like she doesn't care.. I think she just doesn't want to be in control.
I've busted her balls because some kind of topic and she asked me how she could make it up to me. After I say something to this reply, she reply's with "Nah, you've gotta come up with the idea" or something like that. She's coming over this friday. I'm full of irony and sarcasm and I had the idea of saying "Ok, you wanna make it up to me? Take of your shirt and pants."
She's seeing me as the leader? She's shy? I don't know what to do about this! |
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Heartbeat
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| Posted: Tue Jan 22, 2008 1:59 pm Post subject: |
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| You want to be the 'leader'. One of the major points of being a PUA is being in control. If she is naturally submissive, then you've got an easier job than most. |
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Roads
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| Posted: Tue Jan 22, 2008 3:57 pm Post subject: |
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Tease her like you have been, challenge her, draw out her dominant side (believe me it's there).
I don't want a Stepford wife any more than I want a herniated disc in my back.
Don't overdo it though, and always remember you are the man in the relationship. |
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L.A. Tripp
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| Posted: Tue Jan 22, 2008 11:54 pm Post subject: |
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She does have a dominate side, but most likely it only comes out under certain conditions. Such as someone really pissing her off, or extreme stress . . . something like that.
Yes, you DO need to take charge and be the leader. All girls want that, period. Sure, you want her input, but there are those girls that really don't have much of an opinion on most things and just really want YOU to take the initiative and make sure the two you of you have a great time.
So, yes, tease her, work on bringing that other side of her out, but also be patient with her until it finally comes out. It may take quite a while.
Just don't put her down about it in the process. |
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