Hello Everyone

Much like many of you, I have been inspired by AFC Daniel to begin chronicling my pursuits to become a PUA. I’ve done my reading and research, and can’t wait to get out and to start testing what I’ve learned.

Reasons I’m Here
I’ve always developed very close friends after being in close proximity with others (i.e. college dorms). However, I haven’t been good at making those friends, and the fact that I’ve moved to a new city and work a lot (6am-7pm most days) has made me understand that I am the one who has to go out and meet people…they won’t come to me. Thankfully, being 22, although I’m out of college I’m still young enough to easily interact with those at the university I’m currently living at.
Also, like so many of you, I’ve had a bad case of oneitis before. Although I feel like I am almost completely over her, there are a few steps that I need to take socially to finish my progress. These steps include becoming sociable, having many female friends (have had very few since high school), losing my virginity and getting a smoking hot girlfriend (eventually).
Finally, I want to be that social person that people recognize and are excited to see at a party or out at the bars. I want to be comfortable approaching and making friends, girls especially. It’s pretty awkward when my mother remarks to me and her friends how she can’t understand how I haven’t had a gf in years…I’m not bad looking and have my life together other than the social aspect.

First Steps
•Logistics – Adam Lyons talks on Youtube about how logistics can screw up your confidence and ability to close. There are several changes that need to be made:
a.Cleanliness – I’ve been doing a good job of making my house/room clean, but I need make it habit.
b.Bed – I’ve been sleeping on an air mattress. The thought of bringing a hot chick back to that is….not a confidence booster for sure. Although, in all reality, if I’m smooth enough to bring a girl home, I should be smooth enough to convince her the bed is actually decently comfortable
c. Place condoms in my house, car, and one in the wallet – as Style says in the Game, knowing you are prepared is a confidence boost

•Inner Game – I’m confident that I can learn how to become a PUA, but there are a few things I need to change:
a.Nervous habits – Picking fingers, cracking knuckles and neck; fingernails don’t look good and need to change it if using hands-on routines.
b.Walking slower and smiling – reading Pease’s “Body Language” right now to assume a more relaxed, alpha style. I need to find my perfect smile, as right now I feel awkward if I’m smiling walking up to a girl and she hasn’t seen me yet…just feels weird.
c.Become more relaxed – hold a general aura of being interesting, and that I have control over everything around me…exude Alpha traits

•Game – I need to read less and get out in the field more. I can tell you how to destroy a bitch shield, but will most likely crack under the pressure (have never really encountered one before)

Anyway, thanks for reading and I’m an open book: I’ll take any advice anyone can give me. TIME TO START GAMING!

Updates to follow soon...lol really soon as I've had this introduction in the books for weeks...time to make it happen

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Due to a tragedy in my family, I was at home with my family, and decided to take my mother up on her offer to go out and look for shirts for me to go out in, and I jumped at the chance.

While out shopping with my mother, I found several shirts I found in one store, and went to the changing room to try them on. I called my mother over to check one out and caught the eye of an HB8 who was peeping into my changing room via the mirror!!!

I knew I had to take action. As soon as my mother started to walk away I opened the door with force, threw a huge smile and said, "I need some advice...what shirt do you like the most?" Of course, being caught looking into a changing room (and due to the fact that she was probably 17 or 18) she proceeded to fall apart with shyness. After a couple more questions about the shirts, I thanked her for her opinion and left.

Notes:
1. She was smiling and responding, no need for negs here
2. I badly need to work on my C&F style, Normally I am only able to think of witty responses after the fact, and this was true here. For future reference I could've given her crap about the styling of the shirts...most of them were horizontal strips (which are supposed to make you look wider). Had she been an older, higher ranking HB, I could neg her with "you really like the horizontal stripes...and you know what horizontal stipes do...they make you look wider and fatter...clearly you have a fetish for larger men.

Goals: After opening, find conversation topics and don't eject immediately - this one's going to be a major work in progress.

I now have a great neg for clothing patters!

Thanks for reading, more updates soon.

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Sarge 2:

I met up w/ Eclectic at an outdoor shopping mall on Saturday, 3/26, and we introduced over coffee: two AFCs looking to become better at social interactions. After a short introductory period, we moved out into the street, and began to look for opportunities.

After an hour or so, we decided to eat dinner, but that we each had to approach before being able to eat. We asked for directions despite knowing where our final destination was, using the time as an opportunity to practice body language and confident opening on easy targets. I even practiced my Denmark/Kanga/Orange routine on a 40+ y.o. Barnes&Noble bookseller lol.

After dinner we decided to head to the bars, as we knew the area would start to light up. The bar was dead, and we used the time to chat with a HB6 bartender. She was new to the area and we practiced threading and keeping the conversation going. It went well because she kept coming back and hanging around us to initiate conversation. I believe that she genuinely enjoyed talking to us.

The night got interesting when we met Craig, a 40+ y.o.-quite creepy and aggressive man who enjoyed opening sets - despite the questionable response he received. After crashing a private party and several sets open, we managed to separate ourselves from him, as he was more than a creepy influence on the bar. However, his aggressiveness was positively noticed and we realized that him forcing us to open sets was not that bad after all.

At this point M1 joined the party, introduced himself, and the three of us left for the next bar. At this point, we had not had much sarging practice, despite the fact that it was 10:00 PM and Eclectic and I had been out since 5:00. At the bar things got a little more interesting. I practiced my routines on hired guns and, in the highlight of my night, crashed a group dance (screwed up the dance on purpose) while placing myself next to a decent-looking HB. After some hardcore front-on grinding we mutually ejected.

In the meantime, M1 and Eclectic approached (and locked in) to 2 married women, and M1 even received 2 N-closes.

Lessons from the night:
1. I'm comfortable approaching when I have something good to say. When my opener is questionable I chicken out.
2. i need a lot of practice: no more reading and more time in the game. I have no feel for social interactions with strangers and need to practice conversational techniques.

Actions:
1. Memorize some openers - it will go a long way to helping my confidence.
2. My routines are good: practice opening, threading and working into getting IOIs.
3. Stop with the AA and approach - I'll never improve if I don't.

More to come: thanks for reading

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Sarge Locations:

I found some great places to sarge. Sadly, I work from roughly 6am to 7pm each day, so my ability to daygame is limited to weekends and weeknights.

Places I've found to sarge:
1. The nearby mall - goal: 1x per week
2. The nearby university - goal: 1x per weekend and one night a week. I need to talk to my roommate (who goes to the school) about access to public places such as the library, business school, etc.
3. The nearby SUPERTARGET!!! I'm so excited about this one because, as the nearest major box store to the University, it is filled with cute girls shopping on their own, as I found out on Sunday. Goal: 2-3 trips per week, with multiple interactions with cute age-appropriate girls. Lots of chances for spontaneous openers here as well...questions about food selection, cooking, etc. Easy to open for sure.

I'm planning on spreading out my purchases at the Target store so I have to visit often, as well as considering crashing classes at the University if I can find the opportunity to do so.

Everything is set up so I have plenty of places to sarge. Now my slow and steady progress will begin.

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When I first read The Game I didn't realize how deep the PUA hole went. I never realized that becoming a PUA would directly change my complete view towards social interactions.

1. It has completely changed the way I live; I keep everything clean and organized, hoping for that day when ladies will be coming back home.
2. My wardrobe and sense of fashion has changed for the better, and I finally have some nicer clothes. In addition, my nervous habits are coming under control and masturbation is drastically less frequent.
3. My body language has completely changed, and this improvement has been the most positive improvement for me so far. I no longer walk and look at the ground in front of me. My head is on a swivel, looking around, smiling, chacking out other peple and enjoying social areas, where I used to, for instance, go to the store, get my stuff and leave as quickly as possible.

Overall, I love how this world not only helps us be better with social interactions and picking up girls, but improves us as people.

That, by itself, is a good enough reason for all of us to continue on this journey. I love learning this stuff and thanks to all of you for the advice you provide on the forums.

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Rejection:

Over the weekend I learned several things about my "game"...and, for now, I'm still completely AFC.

Friday night I went out w/ my roommate and his friends and met a cute and very spunky girl, HB7. We were at a house party and were sitting around a coffee table playing card games. As PUAs do, I took control of the table, dealt the cards, kept the game going, and kept attention in my direction. We had a good time but, despite the fact I was sitting next to this girl, I was unable to hold her attention for any period of time whatsoever. Not really sure why, but maybe I didn't do anywhere enough teasing when she screwed up, guessed wrong, etc.

Later in the night we went to a local bar where our groups were separated. I wanted to make approaches in the bar, but was very drunk, and resigned to AA. Not a productive night.

Lessons from Friday night:
1. I need to be more C&F, playful, find better ways to attract attention, as I felt like I was getting lost in the shuffle.
2. PUAs don't drink for a reason. You get sloppy and are generally unable to create interesting conversation
3. Alcohol doesn't decrease AA.

Saturday night I went to a baseball game with the same friends and went to the bars afterward. The samething happened as friday night.

Bar 1: Despite the fact that I wasn't that drunk, I was so resigned to AA that I couldn't even approach an obvious 3rd-wheel set (3rd wheel was a HB9 and older), and with my friends' encouragement.

Bar 2: It was packed, and with plenty of HBs. The first HB8 I walked by several times, but I knew after passing her the first time that my 3 second rule was pretty much already screwed. She, come to think of it, was in a 3-set with a guy and girl as well. Question: If you walk by a set and the HB is the easiest to approach, do you still go after the obstacles?

The next girl I wanted to open was a cute blond HB8.5 who was dancing aggressively in a group of chicks, but her back was facing me. I couldn't get myself to walk up behind her, grab her hand and turn her around...is it ok to do this with a smile and confidence or is it bad to approach her from behind like that?

Finally I ended up opening a 3-set with average looking girls, and used the drug-dealer opener with my friend and was completely blown out, they just kinda ran away. Clearly my body language or something was completely off.

So overall I had my chances and completely failed. I'm normally able to open girls decently well with situational openers if I can get over the AA which is nowhere near as bad as nightgame - why can't I think of anything interesting to say?

Do I need to work on my daygame more and hope it translates into nightgame? Is there a different trick to opening sets during daygame when everyone is standing around in groups?? - it feels so weird and unnatural right now.

Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks!

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Hey Neuken, keep going man, the most important thing is that you DO approach even if only sometimes, that will keep improving.

Reading your posts I think with your style and current situation, you could really learn something from David Wygant, just google some of his videos, I personally like this section in DeAngelo's Man Transformation

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kth7yAtvauM[/youtube]

Watch part 2 as well.

Basically the best things I got from it was:
That it really doesnt matter
The "Serendipitous Moment" is golden!
What a way to simplify things!

"When in doubt, fuck!" -Frank "the fucking man" Slade

If you're wondering about taking her hand to open while she dances, do it!
If you're reading her "IOI's" while you want to kiss her...stop thinking and kiss her!
Life is way short

Best Luck!

Byzantine,

Thanks for the advice...I really think that this will help me take another step.

I watched the videos and learned a lot. One of my main problems is feeling that approaching is often contrived (meaning I'm already screwed from the start: wrong body language and mindset) - natural approaches will definitely help.

Also, the video makes a point of staying in the moment - I think too far ahead sometimes which is most likely why I have problems creating fun and meaningful convos a lot of the time - I don't pick up on the subtle conversational hints that should lead me to the next question/statement.

And not only that, but your vid led me to another where I watched a street pickup...the guy started with a quick question about a coffee shop location, and right when she was about to leave, he stacked an opening routine and asked the tattoo question...all the while locking himself up against a pillar. That makes the contrived routines seem a lot more natural...the "oh by the way...I've been wondering all day..."

IT MAKES SO MUCH MORE SENSE NOW! Thanks! - looking forward to getting out once again after work tomorrow to practice. Updates soon.

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A few weeks ago I was at a bar with some friends, and was practicing my newly-learned routines. There was a hired gun standing by a doorway selling beers and who was clearly bored shitless. I walked up, made a comment about the lack of business, and moved into my routine (should've made a C&F comment about her inability to attract business).

A few days ago I went back to this bar, and this same girl was the cover-collector. She looked up and recognized me, and said something along the lines of "hey you're that guy from last weekend..." (can't remember it exactly or even close...forgot to write it down).

My main question is this: I know that MM says that hired guns are valid targets, you just have to use a different style when working on them. However, unless I missed it, it doesn't say how to work with girls who are paid to rake in men's money.

Are there any tried techniques for picking up hired guns? Also, how do you know when they are actually interested and not trying to squeeze money out of you?

Thanks!

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