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It’s no secret that I’m not a fan of pickup methods that primarily use social value as an attraction tool. I don’t like methods that depend on the use of DHVs and negs to make women dependent on the PUA to restore their own self-esteem. That’s pretty messed up.

That being said, I still think it’s important to maintain a decent level of social value so that you don’t have a tough time with the shields and walls that women put up to filter out the “losers” who seemingly have nothing valuable to offer.

We all know about the importance of being a “high value” man, and that involves making yourself more attractive on a macro-game level, meaning that it gives you the advantage of being more attractive and desirable in a general day-to-day sense. What guys in the pickup community don’t seem to talk about so much anymore these days, however, is microcalibration.

Microcalibration is exactly what it sounds like – you calibrate your value on a micro-game level, meaning that it should give you the advantage of being more attractive and desirable (in terms of social value) in the moment you’re interacting with a girl. Microcalibrating means to maintain your value at a consistent level.

Most people who have heard about microcalibration generally think of it as a means to maintain high value in the face of congruency tests and bitch shields. While it is true that this is one main function of microcalibration, it has another purpose: to make sure that your perceived value isn’t too high!

Most guys overshoot and try to simply be as high-value as possible. They don’t even think about the potential advantages of microcalibrating so that they don’t make themselves seem too high-value too soon.

Also, they usually don’t realize how putting themselves on such a high pedestal can be dangerous.

In classic value-based pickup methods, there’s a necessity for an “exposing vulnerabilities” step for a reason. This is because of an inherent potential flaw built into the theory of using high value for attraction. Since most guys using these classic methods overshoot by DHVing too much, they unknowingly build a wall between them and the girl that hinders connection.

Just think about it. Imagine you’re a lowly employee of a company with a strong horizontal hierarchy and you’re at a dinner meeting with other employees, your boss, your boss’s boss, and even your boss’s boss’s bosses. You’re going to feel most comfortable chatting with the other employees of the same rank. You’ll most likely feel pretty comfortable chatting with your boss, but you’ll feel less comfortable with the idea of striking up a conversation with your boss’s boss. You might feel very uncomfortable with the idea of talking to your boss’s boss’s bosses.

If you make yourself seem too high value, the women you talk to aren’t going to be able to relate to you as well as people who they perceive to be “on their level.”

This is where microcalibration comes in. Not only should you use it to stay one step ahead of the game by heightening your social value, you also need to use it to breathe some humility into the game when you’re face to face with a teammate so that they see you as someone they can relate to.

I often preach that pickup isn’t about you vs. the girl, but rather that it’s all about you and the girl being on the same team. Many guys make the mistake of thinking of pickup as some sort of conquest-driven game where they must mentally berate a hot woman into submission as a demonstration of their masculine triumph over the feminine sexual prowess. That’s some fucked up shit. Pickup is really about connecting men and women in spite of the socially conditioned barriers that separate them.

In order to create the frame that you and the girl are on the same team, you need to microcalibrate so that you’re leading her to follow your high value. Not only do you need to be high value yourself, you also need to invite her to be on the same page. You cannot achieve this if your value is light years ahead of her’s. So, within an interaction with a woman, you need to be able to tone down your value to be at a similar level to her own perceived value for the “pacing” part in the classic “pacing and leading” structure.

I actually have to get going right now, but I’ll get into more detail about this “pacing and leading” thing, as well as more details about how to microcalibrate in Part 2.

Originally posted here: http://chiefpua.com/microcalibration-part-1/

I'll post part 2 in this thread when I get around to writing it! If you like this stuff please visit my blog

AWESOME post man. This is the key to being successful at this game for sure.

As usual POTENT and great stuff Chief!

I must say this all relates to charisma as well. When you learn some basics about charisma one important feature is not thinking you are better than people (showing humility), thinking well of yourself, and raising everyone up to feel good as well.

Thanks again for a magnificent read! Looking forward to your follow up!

Peace and Love,

Vic

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In Part 1 of “Microcalibration,” I talked about how we need to be mindful of the fact that Microcalibration is meant to be used to control the level of our perceived social value so that it’s neither too low nor too high.

In this second part I want to get into more detail on how exactly you can microcalibrate an interaction. I must warn you, however, that these concepts are kind of advanced, and you’ll need some prior background knowledge and experience in pickup to understand this stuff. For example, those of you who are new to the PUA community may have trouble conceptualizing what I mean by “value.”

Anyway, in order to microcalibrate, all you have to do is follow a general theme of maintaining a consistent level of social value while slowly climbing those levels of social value at the same time.

When you first meet a girl, let’s say she has a neutral 50% value level. These are just arbitrary numbers for the sake of explanation; don’t think that there are real numbers to this thing. You have to demonstrate enough value to be somewhere around 50% to 55% value. You have to match her level (pacing) in order for her to feel like she can relate to you, but you also have to hover ever so slightly above 50% in order to encourage her to raise her own value to match yours (leading) by 1. qualifying to you or 2. taking value that you give to her.

So, you’ve paced her level of value and then you’ve led her to have a shared higher level of value. This is a form of pacing and leading. It’s also a slow escalation of value. That’s what I meant when I said that you have to consistently yet slowly climb the levels of social value.

Giving examples of microcalibration is pretty hard since it’s what you would call a “reactive” skill. How you should microcalibrate a situation is dependent on what the girl says or does. This means what you should say would be different depending on the situation, but there’s no way to memorize every possible situation you would use microcalibration in! It’s something you have to understand conceptually in order to use.

A very common theme in many schools of pickup – especially in those that follow “natural game” – is that you should be nonreactive, because alpha males don’t give a damn of what other people think of them, right? The usefulness of microcalibration versus the usefulness of nonreactiveness is actually a pretty popular debate in the pickup community, and each side has its merits.

I say it’s best to be flexible, and to use microcalibration when necessary and be nonreactive when it might be a better idea. It is, of course, oftentimes difficult to tell when to use what, but that sort of calibration sense is a great reward for experience! That’s why field time is so damn important. You can’t gain that sense of calibration for when to use which approach from reading a book or watching a DVD program.

All in all, you absolutely should use microcalibration at least sometimes, and the best way to do that is to make sure you’re using the classic “pacing and leading” method with value. Forget the most common value-based pickup philosophy of heightening your value while lowering her’s. Like I said in Part 1, you and the girl are on the same team. Stay on the same page. You’ll find seduction to be a lot easier that way.

Source: http://chiefpua.com/microcalibration-part-2/

I believe I heard these words from Keys to the VIP:
"Instead of lowering other people's value while trying to higher your own, you just offer value".

So that means that instead of trying to pin people down, offer value by giving compliments (not too much!) to the people that the girl knows, teasing them or just being cool with them. The girl knows you are of high value then, and it will shine through. It's always better then trying to impress the whole group.

Wallie

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This is a superb thread - not only are Chief's posts excellent, but there are some good replies in here as well.

I think Vic's mention of that sort of confident-yet-humble modesty that the stereotypical suave English gentleman has, is a brilliant tool for this Chief. I mean I suppose it depends on your personality but I think it definitely has its benefits. By being confident-yet-humbly-modest you are simultaneously showing "high value" (by not being a boring brag artist which tends to lower value in my opinion), but at the same time you are limiting how high you try to take your own, and also bring the girl's up as well, so you do keep it fairly consistent.

But at the same time, given that it's you being humble and modest, it's almost as if you're giving her permission to see herself on a similar level of value as you. And because it's like you're giving her permission, it just keeps you that 5% above her, like you say.

Interesting reading.