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stanny
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 Posted: Thu Nov 08, 2007 5:29 am Post subject: How do I transition from Opening to Building attraction? |
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Hi guys,
I am having problems transitioning from Opening to the second stage. Let's say I open with "Jealous Girlfriend", bla bla, we talk a bit for awhile and then when should I cut her off? Can I go all of a sudden, "Hey before I go, you ever play the Cube?" More importantly, how many routines should I run before heading to the 3rd part?
I am seriously lost in the building attraction category.
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trece
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imho yes you can if you opened succesfully. there are different ways to transition, you can build a transition out of your opener or imho better out of her reaction if possible. like she says "oh no im from london" you say "really thats crazy i just come from london and we took this helicopter ride with donald trump and my exoticdancerex blablabla"(: > well not like that but you get the point). or simply (and you can do this without context) "oh that reminds me "
but thats not that important, you can even do it without a transition at all, its just to not sound awkward and make a blowout less likely. Because if they ask you "why are you telling us this!?" thats baaad.
dont spend too much time thinking about this, better think about your attraction game.
the "3rd part" I take it is comfort to you? or is it qualification? how many routines is not important. its important that she is attracted because else it wont work. if you do your stuff right most of them will show you signs quite obvious. act by feel(and feel optimistic). if she is attracted she will be motivated to get further (to comfort) with you. if she is reluctant back off and try to run more attraction stuff. |
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brooksey
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tresce is right. a way of assessing this is to compare your conversations with girls with your friends, when you talk to you friends you talk about a subject, and part of that subject will leed onto another. Its neil strauss keyhook theory where u use valuable words in there sentences. then the conversation is more natural, and they wont think 'why are u telling us this?' because you have joined in to there conversation.
HB: im fron LONDON
you: Omg, i hate going to LONDON
HB: why?
You: because my friends up there always get me drunk
HB: so, its good to get DRUNK once in a while
You: i take it then that you like to get DRUNK alot.
this is just an example but it shows how the conversation can fluently carry on without awkwadness, and she will see it as just general talking, while u build up the comfort, does that help? |
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FreeLife
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A specific transition could be like this (I like this one myself): You are all discussing the opener and then you cut them of by saying: "You know what... I just realized that you have very similar smiles/whatever - you must be good friends with each other". Since they are together they will most likely agree on this. Then you go: "One of my friends studies psychology and he showed me how to perform this cool test. It can determine whether two people are good friends and it is right 99% of the time". If you deliver with some enthusiasm they will ask you to perform it for them and then you do the best friends test.
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zachary0611
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| Id say work on your inner game self confidence is one of the most attractive quailities and good eye contact works for me too |
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