I want to know, can you control what kind of women you are attracted to?


I have found that American women generally like me. Except for maybe blondes (and I don't really care about that), I find that I have managed to do great with American women. I have done great with White, Asian, Black, and Latina girls in the US (have only been with White, Latina, and an Asian-White mix though).

Like I feel to American women, I am this really attractive exotic piece of the pie. The 10 or so women I have hooked up with have all been either born in the US or raised here (been here for over 10 years). So many of them have complemented on my appearance, treated me well, told me I am a good looking guy, etc. American women have treated me so well because to them I am this outsider, this guy they have never seen, this guy many of them have not had the chance to interact with, this Indian they heard about but never saw before, etc. See, I live in a town full of Black and White people that you never really get that many people who are inbetween the color spectrum (Indians, Arabs, etc.).

Yet, I don't know what it is, but a part of my attraction machine is falling for foreign girls (mainly European). My experience with them is limited to this conference I went to a long time ago and most of the girls were either French, Italian, or Brazilian. Don't know WHAT happened, it wasn't just the looks, but those accents had me going crazy. Yet, I found that most of them stuck to their groups and weren't open to interacting with outsiders.
Approached this Italian girl, that ended in a disaster. Approached a French girl but she was being a total bitch. The Brazilian girl was pretty open to me approaching her though.

Unfortunately, ever since then I have had this attraction towards foreign women, especially European (except for British). My experiences with them are limited though.

Now here is the issue, I know that I really have no chance of scoring with those girls, especially not French or Italian due to my ethnicity (Indian male but I look Middle Eastern). Hatred and racism towards people of my color are extremely strong in those places (especially France) so I am really not going to have much luck. I feel that American women are the only women who are wowed by my exotic appearance.

I know it is pointless for me to think about being with European girls since they won't want to hear what I have to say anyways and a large number already have biases against men of my appearance. So I want to know how I can lose the attraction I have for them.

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You can't.

And anyway your attitude is a bit defeatist. There are plenty of places where European women would go for you unless you are a complete chode.

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Are American women all that different from European women? Think about where most Americans come from.

Attraction is never a choice. That goes for both you and the girls you meet. But go to UK, that's the best spot for Asians to game.

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It's getting boring Paramount. Every post is the exact same, you ask the same questions, get the same answers, ignore the answers and ask the same question again.

Look, people in pretty much every thread you have posted have given you reasons against the 'thing' you have about race, but if you want to ignore the advice then fine. but why keep posting about it on and on? If you have this thing in your head that you're going to be shit with certain women because of your skin, then you will be purely because you're going in with this defeatist attitude. And girls don't like guys who fucking whinge constantly. Either get over your limiting beliefs or don't, but don't keep asking the same question.

To be quite honest, since you've moved off blondes on to European and British girls, it's just got quite offensive from you. What you're basically saying is that all British and European girls are racist. In one of your other threads you basically said you turned down a trip to Europe because you were afraid of persecution because of your skin colour. It's nothing but ignorance and you being offensive to be quite honest. I've got female friends here in the UK who have slept with lads of all sort of different coloured skin. They really don't give a shit as long as you're a nice guy and have an element of "game". Yes, in the entirety of Europe there might be some racist people (it's a big place, you get some racist people in the US, that's just how some people want to think), but to continuously keep saying you've got no chance with Europeans and that the majority of Europe is racist etc. is getting tedious and offensive to Europeans now. Get over it.

Honestly, it's all in your head. You are defeated by your own limited belief and insecurities. I'm Asian and I've slept with French and Italian girls before. If anything, I find them more open minded than most American girls.

You can't control the attraction but what you can control is whether you grind your teeth and push through or you run away from the challenge, go on this forum and keep complaining about it.

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My experiences with European girls are limited so I go by what I read on the internet. Here in the south, believe it or not, Asian and Indian and Arabic and Latino guys have it better than Black men with all else being equal.

As I said, to these southern women, I am this piece of exotic pie they want to get to know more. To European women it seemed to me that they were all stuck up and gave me a cold shoulder before I even did anything. They have ALREADY judged me as some Arab or Gypsy before I have even opened my mouth.

See, people don't get the definition of racism in today's society. It is ONLY racist if you are racist against Black people. The same liberals we praise as being progressive who aren't racist towards someone who is Black are the same ones who will turn around and talk crap about Latinos, Asians, Arabs, etc.

People say these European women are somehow "progressive" but I get the idea that they are the kind of women who will hook up with a Black man JUST BECAUSE he is Black. By doing this their friends will no longer think they are racist. Why is it that I don't see any women from Sweden, France, Norway, or Germany hooking up with Brown or Middle Eastern or Asian men when there are plenty in their country?

Yet here in the US I live in the deep south and I have seen White women (mainly brunettes and gingers) who are good looking with Asian, Latino, Arabic, and EVEN INDIAN boyfriends?

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More open minded? please tell me why you said that

The French girls I met were extremely rude and stuck up, the Italian ones were pretty much the same way, now Brazilian women were a different story.

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People with Arabic appearance are not too respected in Europe. There are a lot of them there and it's typically perceived that they are taking over Western Europe. It's a negative connotation all around.

If you take away the social priming European societies go through when putting negative social norms onto Arabic people, there is also the factor that there are a lot of them in Europe. That's why you were not perceived too positively (all other factors aside.)

Once you get to college, if you are not there yet, make sure social psychology is the first course you take.

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^ see guys, I am not crazy afterall, I have my reason to think what I do

and tell me why, if there are so many in Europe that couples involving them and White women are unheard of while here in the US you hear of Black men - White women couples a lot more even though generally black people are perceived in a negative light here (stereotypes and such)

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So one member has pretty much said it is pointless right now for me to even look at European girls but now the issue becomes this, how can I get rid of this instant attraction I have towards them?

Should I look for negative stereotypes about them? Apparently French women have hairy armpits and Italian women don't age too well.

Should I find a way to increase my love for American women that much more?

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Aye yai yai! How can one man be so stupid. I mean seriously. Bro, you're issue is that you place too much value on European women. Until you get over this, you'll forever be stuck in this perpetual abyss of racial darkness. You won't even be able to grow at all.

I don't think African American men are perceived negatively in the Southeast. Nonetheless, if you are talking about all of America, don't forget that American societies are in general much more liberal with perception of race than European societies.


To respond to your other post, your problem will be as big as you make it out to be.

Is liking European women deviant, distressful, or dysfunctional for you?
If so, seek professional psychological help.

If not, time will heal. You can't generalize all European women: a sample of two is in no way representative of the whole population. Besides, you can't tell me that you don't find other women where you live attractive. Just continue doing your thing and don't let YOU affect you so much.

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I live in the southeast and let me tell you, it is true. An asian or latino has a leg up on a Black guy here.

Apparently in Europe it is the opposite

I have had experiences with various kinds of women of all races, just not into Black women. I have them as friends but not attracted to them. Same with most Asian women.

Sadly enough I had to like the kind of women (European) who will hate me for the color of my skin and look at me as second class.

In b4 people get pissed off at me not being attracted to Black girls and most asian girls

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